I'm frustrated and need help!
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| Tue, 09-26-2006 - 3:58pm |
Hello ladies, I have to admit I have learned from all your situations, so I'm hoping you'all can give me great advice.
I have been single since 1998, was married in the late 80/early 90's, and dated 2 other guys ({1} 2 years, {1} 6 years). Decided to get an education, assist my daughter through high school and when she was off to college and I was settled in a solid career I would start dating again.
So, it's been 2 years that I have now had over 45 first/second dates and introductions. But I'm not sure what I'm doing wrong to scare guys off, or have I set my standards too high and not finding that right guy to spend time with.
I tried posting my picture and a profile and paid money for 3 different internet sites and actually had not a single guy start interest in me, and the ones that I tried starting never replied.
I work 2pm to 10:30pm and find myself sitting home more often than not.
What ladies am I doing wrong? sure I'm a little chubby (50 lbs overweight), but I'm fit, I exercise 4 times a week before work.
Help me!
Thanks!
DawnaD1964

Hey there..... a little chubby?
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
I put kindness, intelligence, a sense of adventure and generosity as my top criteria. When I was active in OLD I'd ignore the guys who wouldn't date a woman who was older than themselves. I guess I see that as a sign of shallowness. There are more enlightened men out there who put personality first, have hope.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
GF, obviously you can get men b/c you've been married and you've had 2 separate relationships afterwards.
Without knowing more details, it's hard to say what you could be doing wrong. But the bottom line is, if you don't feel good about yourself, others won't either. So what if you're a little heavy, some men like that.
Have you updated your look for 2006? Maybe some self pampering would help. A change in hair style, clothes, and most importantly, attitude! will go a long way.
Good luck!
MS
It does completely amaze me as to the way too high standards these men seem to have especially when they aren't that good looking themselves. This is one of the main things that bug me with these sites. I think I'm cute and thin and I try to wink at the men within my age range and who I think have similar attractive qualities like I do and they never email me at all or respond to my winks. I try not to wink at the really attractive guys because I know they most likely get way too much mail. Some guys that are just really unattractive or 20-30 years older than me wink at me and I'm thinking "hmmmm what's wrong with this picture here...."
TO THE OP:
I wish I could help with your situation but I have no idea how to help myself really. I've had more than 20 dates this year of being single and not one of them has panned out, mainly due to the guy just not contacting me afterwards even after they say they will after the first date or the guy just being very odd or borderline stalking me. If it's not one thing it's been another so if anything i feel your pain! At leas you know you are not alone in this.