Getting So Discouraged and Frustrated
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| Wed, 09-27-2006 - 8:25am |
I guess i'm just here to vent and see if anyone else is feeling the same way I am or has ever felt this way. I just turned 30 years old and basically my situation is that all of my friends have someone and arent into the whole "going out" scene anymore. Also, none of them know anyone to try and introduce me to. Eveyone is always saying "you're such a great person and you're so pretty, how come you're single?" well, the answer is I DONT KNOW! I know it's hard with my limited way of meeting people (i'm kind of limited to online dating because of my situation) but i'm having no luck with this avenue either. And the even more disheartening thing is EVERY ONE of my friends has someone. Even the guys. I'm the only single one. I've been single for a year now (some of that by choice) but now i'm ready to meet someone to be with and it just seems I have absolutely no luck in this department and i'm getting so discouraged and frustrated now, sometimes I just want to cry. And I kind of feel like i'm getting older and time is sort of running out you know? I mean, I know 30 is not old, but you know what I mean. So basically i'm stuck with online dating, i've tried every way on here pretty much, and had no luck. I dont know what to do anymore. I almost feel like i'm never going to meet anyone. Have any of you felt like this ever?? What do you do? Does anyone have any suggestions or words that might shed a different light on this?
Thanks
~J

What happens when you go out that makes your dates unsuccessful? Alot of guys don't want to hear about how a woman is looking to get married or be in a serious relationship on the first date. To them it seems like the woman is desparate and they feel threatened by that.
I know exactly how you feel. I have been in that same rut for 2 years now and I'm 42 years old. I love it when everyone tells you, when it's ment to be you will find the right guy. Ok, how do I know I didn't pass him up because I had an attitude about how stupid men can be that day?
When I was 30 and a single mom (kids at home) I went with parents groups mainly to find more single friends and more single people to have fun with, with kids. Well at that time I met some great men. I dated 1 until he decided he was taking a job in Texas to live back by his kids (best for him, bad for me). I suggest you try other avenues. Single parents groups through church organizations and even your local library.
Sometimes when you try too hard you will never find what you really are looking for.
I posted a message as frustrated and asking for help and know that taking your own advise is a killer, but sometimes we just try too hard and miss what is really there.
Good luck and don't get too discouraged. Being 42 and single is a killer, and I've been single since 1998.
D
Last week I was feeling very down about some things in my life. One of our patient's Dads walked in the door. I had heard he had cancer, but hadn't seen him in awhile. He was a single parent who always made sure his daughter made it to therapy sessions no matter what. We were both involved in a custody battle at the same time. Anyway, he looked awful. He is in his early 30's and probably will not make it. It was all I could do not to bawl in front of him. His daughter (who has Down's) may end up with his ex wife, who is a drug abuser.
I don't mean to ramble or sound preachy, but this was a huge wake up call for me. Just try to remember that there are alot of people in much worse circumstances than ours.
Stephanie