how much info?/how soon?

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Registered: 11-16-2005
how much info?/how soon?
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Mon, 10-02-2006 - 11:54pm

hey just thought i'd ask opinion on how much info to share with dates and how soon about previous marriage. i had a breif affair, realized my mistake and repented- ex could not forgive me and went on to have own affair - lasting 3 yrs until i gave up on marraige. i feel like this is something that i could not keep from a prospective husband but i don't want to scare off a date either - so when??

also, my ex had some sexual fetishes that i don't ever want to be a part of again, how and when do you broach those subjects??

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 10-04-2006 - 9:39am

I would just say, "we both learned a lot from our marriage."


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 09-28-2006
Thu, 10-05-2006 - 1:14pm
Hi well if he ever asks about past relationships you should be honest. Don't be ashamed about your past and what has happend. Just know that you learned from your mistakes and are trying to be a better person.When the relationship is getting more serious, you should be able to talk about anything openly. If he doesn't accept you for all of you than he isn't the one for you. You should be able to tell each other your dreams, fears and worries. If he cares for you, he will like you anways.