Feedback about online dating services?

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Registered: 10-07-2006
Feedback about online dating services?
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Sun, 10-08-2006 - 8:38am

After being dumped by an immature boy in the body of a 44 yr old man (needs serious conseling about his committment issues!), I am re-entering the dating scene. I'm a 39 yr old single parent & a high school teacher. As a result, my ability to meet people/men is limited. I want to try online dating, but I'm unsure about which service to try. Anyone have any advice on which services are better?

Thanks!
Lisa

Lisa

Mama to Dylan (12/6/99) and Finn

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Registered: 03-25-2002
Mon, 10-09-2006 - 1:03pm

Good question...

I have profiles on several sites, but not sure which one to subscribe to or put money into. I can't decide between YahooPersonals and Match.com. Atleast with YahooPersonals I can send one "flirt" and if the guy has membership he can send me his email address.

i look forward to what others say.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Tue, 10-10-2006 - 11:28pm

Well, I signed up on Match (paid for 6 months) and just have a profile on eHarmony (I didn't subscribe to them).


Match lets you browse on your own terms, send winks, e mail, etc.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 04-21-2006
Thu, 10-12-2006 - 3:35pm

I've tried them all. lol. Even sexy ones. Most of them are total BS. You may find a date or two but often they are no good.

Match.com
americansingles.com
eharmony.com --> the most intense, I think
itsjustcoffe.com --> free
millionairematch.com --> this one you have to make a specific amount of money to be on but ppl always lie. --> free

These are the ones I've tried as well as some local personals from my local newspapers. I'd go to your local sites first for example NYPersonals.com is one of my favs.

Personally I won't pay for them again. I had a subscription to Match.com as well and I only met idiots. I did like eHarmony and do believe it's worth the membership fee but only if you want to be in a serious relationship (ie: marriage). For casual dating, just pick a site that is free. It's not worth paying for them.

MS

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Registered: 01-17-2004
Thu, 10-12-2006 - 10:59pm
I joined www.plentyoffish.com and its free :D and I met an amazing guy on there! :D you should check it out! :D
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Registered: 10-16-2006
Mon, 10-16-2006 - 12:28pm
i've never tried them, but i've always wondered how they worked and if there are really good guys that are there. it seems like you always hear more about the geeky stuff that happens, and not so much about the success stories.
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Registered: 08-14-2006
Wed, 10-18-2006 - 9:02am

Hi Lisa,


I am a 49 year old man - also a teacher. After I became single (my wife ran away with a

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Registered: 10-18-2006
Wed, 10-18-2006 - 11:39am

Hi!
Here's some advice on online dating.
Casual dating is exactly what is says. You might luck out, but in most cases sex will be expected after a few dates. Not that that has to be a bad thing, if that is what you want.
I would stay away from Match.com, they are having serious problems with "widower" scammers.
If you have a lot of time and patience, go to EHarmony, however, be prepared for a lot of loosers.
Yahoo Personals is pretty good, it lets you be very specific, and weed out the riff raff.

Sorry to sound so crass, but its really important that you decide what you want and how you want it, otherwise you will be waisting a lot of time "penpal-ing" people who wouldnt necessarily be your first choice.
I would strongly recommend you to pick a man that you find honest and to have attractive traits in your social circle, and have him help you with your profile. Always remember that its a MAN you are speaking to in your profile, not your girlfriends..
And remember: never ever date a man without a photo!
Good luck!