Where do single men in their 50s go?

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Where do single men in their 50s go?
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Mon, 10-16-2006 - 8:09am
I know you can meet men anywhere, any time of day, any day of the week, but specifically, I'd like to hear from some single men in their late 40s and 50s...where do you go on a Friday or Saturday night if you don't have a date? Do you tend to stay home and watch TV? Do you ever go with a male friend(s)?

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Mon, 10-16-2006 - 11:30am
Good question!... I'd like to know where the thirty and forty-somethings hang out ;-)

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Thu, 10-19-2006 - 8:23pm
Me too!!! Me too !! I am so tired of the -- hey it was great talking with you and lets get together. then four or five weeks go by (yes i said weeks) i just want to meet somebody to have some fun with and have a few laughs with.
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Sun, 10-22-2006 - 7:45am
Just turned 50 and have no idea. Do not like bars, my last attempt at a relationship was the first in a long time so it was a total disaster. Almost used that "crash and burn quote" butt* one total jackass of a couch jumping actor already did. Considering all the women who use this site you would think they would have a message board for that particular item. You know the - Male, just turned 50 looking for someone... If interested in coffee after a walk somewhere contact me at... Oh and the Katie Couric quote, perhaps some of us should end up like gilligan. He was in fact the nice guy, not too bright and somewhat of a fumbling sort but he is and always would be the guy that was there huh. Too bad most do not want that type. DasViDanya Rick
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Tue, 10-24-2006 - 11:41am

I feel like Gilligan...

I am the proverbial "nice guy"... I am the one that women seem to be looking for until the "bad boy" comes along.. and then everything changes...

Where do I go on Friday/Saturdays?? I could be found at museums in either Memphis, TN or Jackson, MS... I could be found at some blues clubs in Memphis or in Clarksdale, MS...

I tend to not hang out with guys... I dont know why... I just don't...

Finding a nice 40~something/ 50~something woman would be great...

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Wed, 10-25-2006 - 6:57pm
Agreed!
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Sun, 10-29-2006 - 12:19pm

floridagirl52...

Pianoguy would like to respond to your post...even though his answer might be a little vague?

I honestly think it depends upon the man's need for "a social life" as opposed to hanging out at home with his hobbies and the dog! .

For some men, it's necessary to bond with family, friends, get involved in sports or do a little volunteer work. This keeps many of us from becoming melancholy or too aware of the fact that there's no S.O. in our life! For others...who have to work 2 or more jobs (which probably involve at least Saturday and perhaps Sunday)...'hanging out at home' is the preferred choice. This DOESN'T mean we don't want to DATE or BECOME INVOLVED WITH SOMEBODY?

But if our schedule(s) are tight...or if we just need some personal quiet time...it's really not fair to promise a woman we'll call her when our 'weekend desire' is to just be alone?

Pianoguy

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Mon, 11-06-2006 - 1:52pm
They must go to the same place guys up here go - into oblivion. Us gal pals in NJ are closer to 60 and no single guys over the age of 50 are ever anyplace we are. We've just about tried everything. My suggestion is sporting events, the local supermarket after work, book stores, Home Depot/Lowes. Good luck.
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Tue, 11-07-2006 - 3:48am
This is so depressing. I'm ready to do something, anything, socially on "howl at the moon" nights (i.e. Saturday). Separated 2 years after 21 years of marriage... Tried blues bars (love the music, love to dance, men look right through me as if I weren't there and pick anyone younger. I'm there, damnit. And hot.). Tried 2 online dating things- god, it felt creepy to me, I guess I'm old fashioned. I hoped for suggestions in the replies to this question, but all I see is other folks with the same questions and frustration. Sigh. The only thing I've figured out is that I have to hang out where men over 45 hang out, but not for pickup purposes. Gotta exchange enough words for someone in my psychic zone to see me. Toastmasters. There's a "salon" group in my area that meets to talk about politics. The local pug play group (with the help of my dear friend, Raisin). Someday, I'll meet a guy who's into me- I hope!
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Tue, 11-07-2006 - 8:05pm

Yeah, this is what I thought. And I know it's not like they're all huddled together in one place somewhere if only I could find them. Things I have done (and am still doing, with some success) is going to wine tastings at a nice local wine bar; foreign films on Wednesday nights at the art museum; gallery openings; professional organization events; every party I'm invited to; kayak lessons.

I've done plently of personal ads and been on match.com for two different stretches of time and for the most part it was really bad.

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Fri, 11-10-2006 - 12:58am

Honestly....it's not even an age thing. I'm in my mid 20s, and am interested in guys 25-35 range, and they are hard to find too.

From what I see these are the typical options....
1.) a nightclub-guys there are usually drunk, and looking for a one night stand. Also they tend to be younger.
2.) a resteraunt, or pub-guys are there to hang with their buddies, drink beer, not to pick up girls (usually). Also if you are there with a large group of girls it can be intimidating for guys, or they figure you are just there to hang out with your friends.
3.) internet dating- I have had some luck with this, because I found my Mr. Right there (before I lost him, because of my stupidity). But there are a lot of men who either look better in pics or have self-esteem issues (maybe a reason for all talk, no action), are married or have girlfriends, or are just out to have some 'fun' (if you know what I mean, LOL). There also seems to be a lot who either have a lot of personality on the computer and zero in real life, or have no personality or writing skills on the computer, so it doesn't go anywhere. Also a lot of people online seem to be fresh out of relationships, so there are always the problems that go along with that.

I have had sooo many guys check me out at the grocery store lately....it's weird! They actually seem really friendly when they are there, and like that would be a very possible place to meet one (as long as you smile back, maybe say a few words).

Another good place is a park. As long as you can be somewhat outgoing...if you have a dog to walk, even better!!!

Well...I really hope this maybe helps someone!!!

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