I met a great guy and now...

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Registered: 10-30-2006
I met a great guy and now...
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Mon, 10-30-2006 - 9:46pm
I am new to all of this dating again but I am almost through with my divorce (hearing is Wed) and I was introduced 2 months ago to the most WONDERFUL guy. He was going through this too (but was already divorced) with a son about my son's age. We got really close in a short amt of time. Well, 2 wks ago he called and said his ex had shown up and asked for a second chance and he feels he has to try for his son's sake. I understand why he's doing this but it is just breaking my heart. This woman TRASHED him. (He walked in on her with his bestfriend)
Why do the nice guys put up with this crap?
I miss him so much.
Any advice?
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Tue, 10-31-2006 - 11:38am
As hard as it is.... you've got to give him the space--completely back off give him the space--to figure this one out.

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 10-30-2006
Tue, 10-31-2006 - 5:22pm
Thanks for the advice.
I know you are exactly right. I am giving him his space and I know things will work out the way they are meant to.
I guess I'm taking it hard b/c this was the first man I've seen after my husband and he really treated me like a queen and I forgot what that was like.
If it doesn't work out with him, I know there will be others.. :)
I just miss him. It was nice to be attractive and loved again.
Virginia
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Registered: 10-31-2006
Thu, 11-02-2006 - 12:09pm
Back off and give yourself and him some space. I always loved that old saying -- if you love something enough let it go -- if it was meant to be it will return -- if not then you have learned from the time you shared. somehow i can't seem to follow my own advice.
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Registered: 11-06-2006
Mon, 11-06-2006 - 1:49pm
Give him his props for being honest. I believe men need security even more than women. Don't complicate your life right now. I thought I needed to be in a relationship right away after my spouse died a few years ago. I was married a very long time and that's what I was used to. Someone played with my vulnerability and really hurt me. I'm just about over it and so very glad I'm no longer involved. Give yourself a chance to build up your self esteem and when it's meant to happen it will.