A little help, please!
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| Wed, 11-29-2006 - 4:37pm |
Alrighty....
I think I told you all about the guy I was dating where there was the big misunderstandings (the one I ran into in the supermarket, lol).
Well....I have been dating a few guys the past month, but I still really have this one on my mind. I talked with my mom a bit, and have decided to email him (just something really casual), to try to see if there is any possible interest on his part. I just hate this 'what if' feeling that has been on my mind. I'm kind of scared to start something new, and then it turn into a mess because he comes back around. So I want to deal with it beforehand. I've also been scared of running into him somewhere while I'm on another date.
I've had signs that he is still interested, but we haven't talked...so I don't want to come out looking like an idiot if he's actually not. Okay...the initial drama that I created was over him not deleting his account on a dating site. He was going to for me (told me so), and then he took a bit longer than I thought (haha a few days)....but 2 weeks after I stopped talking to him it was gone. So I don't have any clue what that means?? I really did act pretty rediculous!!! He told me the one night that he wanted to delete his and give us an honest shot....so when I got home I took mine off, and then a couple days later gave him all h*ll because his wasn't off. There was so much stress going on that week, and I really just messed things up, and wasn't thinking clearly. I did appologize, but I did it in a way that it might have sounded like I was appologizing for not wanting to be with him anymore....really I was trying to appologize for the way I acted. **If I email him I really don't want to bring this all up again though**.
Can someone please help me figure out what I should say to him.....I'm at a loss. I don't want to make it sound too serious, but I don't want it to sound like I have no interest either. I also don't want to embarass myself (which is why I'm kind of scared of sending him an email in the first place, lol). I was going to wait longer, but I think if I do it will look bad (it's already been almost 2 months)...is that long enough though??? Things were just left so weird....so I don't really know what to say. I'm thinking something along the lines of.."hey how's it going? how's work been?.....". aahhh please someone help me!!! LOL.

I think your idea of a really casual email sounds great! "Hey there, I've been thinking about you lately and wondering how you are doing! How's work? Maybe if you're interested we could catch up face to face sometime!"
I think that staying away from past junk is the best way to go. I would just not mention anything about it. Just keep it light! If he does bring it up, just nicely say that you apologized to him for your behavior because you realized you were being over the top and that you think it would be best to just start fresh - that today is a new day and there is nothing to be gained by living in the past. Hopefully he will be so happy to hear from you that he won't want to bring it up anyway!
By the way, I definitely think two months is plenty of time, so get on that email and get typing! :)
Good luck!
Hummm~
Well, I would bring up the past stuff... just a simple acknowledgement and move on... maybe, "Hi, how's it going?
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~