Possibly interested and a little rusty..

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Registered: 12-02-2006
Possibly interested and a little rusty..
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Sat, 12-02-2006 - 7:00pm

I have been divorced for almost 3 years now and since the divorce have really only been involved in one serious relationship. I have dated a few other guys a time or two but haven't gotten past the initial few dates, either for a lack of interest on my part or theirs. I really haven't put much effort into finding dates or going out, my main concern has been getting my life back on track. I feel like I have accomplished a lot in the past couple of years. I purchased my own home, have gotten completely out of debt except for my mortgage, spent a lot of time figuring out who I was and realizing I could be self-sufficient and not HAVE to be in a relationship to be happy. All that said, at this point I feel like I am ready to get out and be more proactive in dating.
So here is where I am at.......There is this man who over the summer I saw 3 or 4 times in passing while at the softball fields where my daughter plays. I help coach and he also coaches(not my daughters team). We never actually talked the times we saw each other, but a couple of those times there was that awkward moment of eye contact when you catch the other person looking at you or checking you out at the precise time you were checking them out. Then you both smile shyly and turn away. A couple of weeks ago at my son's basketball tryout, I was sitting on the bleachers when he walked in. He made a point to walk over to me with a big smile and say, "Hey, are you following me or what? You seem to be everywhere I go". Dumb me, all I can do is laugh/giggle and say, "Yeah, I must be". And again there was that somewhat awkward eye contact where you want to say something else, but just really don't know what to say or really have the opportunity to say it because of the time and place. That was all he said and went to help with the tryouts since he helps with organizing the league. I didn't get another chance to just briefly say "bye" that day, because the coaches all were staying after the tryouts to divide up the teams. Since then I have thought about him at times and wondered if maybe he had some interest, but just didn't know how to approach me since we had never really talked. I guess he obviously noticed me, or he wouldn't have made the comment he did. The last piece of this whole story is that a couple of days ago I called him about a meeting the softball league was having. (Of course I volunteered for that duty being the league secretary ;) It was really just a legit "business" call to let him know about the upcoming meeting. He remembered me from the softball field and basketball tryouts.....anyway what might have taken 5 minutes turned into a twenty minute phone call. We talked just about the softball league and business stuff, but chatted for twenty minutes about it. I said several times I was taking up too much of his time, but he insisted it was fine and we kept talking. So long story short.........I believe this guy is single and available according to the info I got from a close friend of mine who is also an aquaintance of his. We probably won't cross paths again for a while unless I make the opportunity arise....I really gave him no outward indication I was interested, and my phone call to him would appear to be for "business" only. Having been out of the dating game for WAY too long, am I making something out of absolutely nothing?? Do I ask my friend to test the waters for me??? Do I simply do nothing because I am completely crazy for thinking he might be interested??? Do I be the assertive woman and just call him up and ask him out??? Wow, I am completely inept at this dating, flirting, relationship thing after being out of it for so long. He seems like he would be a really nice guy to get to know(even just as a friend), we have a lot of the same interests and my friend says he is one of the nicest guys he knows. So what do you guys think............I think this is going to be a long learning process for me to get back in the dating game!!!!!......LOL
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Tue, 12-05-2006 - 10:38am

Hi~


He's definitely noticed you... and opened the door by acknowledging that "hey, are you following me?"


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Tue, 12-05-2006 - 11:05pm
Thanks for your reply.....I only wish I had been quicker on my toes and could have come up with a better reply to his statement about following him. I have to call him again in the next day or two about some softball league things so maybe I can come up with a profound statement that will definitely catch his attention......Thanks again.......