Dating a Stranger...
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Dating a Stranger...
| Thu, 12-07-2006 - 6:01pm |
I’m 22 years old and don’t have much experience with dating. Just recently I met this guy in the grocery store. He seemed really nice and even though it was probably a foolish decision, I gave him my number. He called me the next day and asked me out. I wanted to go out with him but was scared that he might turn out to be some kind of psycho so I told him I was busy and I’d call back. Should I call him and make up some excuse for why I can’t go date him or should I take the risk? Is there a safer way to date a stranger?

rie_anna...
Pianoguy thinks your safest bet on the first and 2nd date is to be VISIBLE IN A PUBLIC PLACE!
A concert, sporting event, charity supper...anywhere there's PLENTY of PEOPLE who are close by just in case 'the new guy goes psycho on you!'
Now if things start to get a little icky during the drive back to your home...you're gonna have to become a little more vocal! Especially if he has a bad case of "grabby hands" or "insatiable bad breath" when he tries to KISS YOU MORE THAN ONCE!
Go out...have fun...and remember that the first time or two out..."you're dating a new friend and NOT a stranger!"
Pianoguy
Hi, rie_anna!
My two cents? I think it was okay that you gave him your number. Out of curiosity, was it your cell or home number? In the future, I would do the cell if you gave him your home number. With a home number he can do a reverse lookup and find out where you live if your number is listed. You might not want a new friend to know that right off the bat.
That being said, I think MEETING him in a public place is the best option until you feel comfortable - whether that is one, two or seven dates - it is about your personal comfort level. Do not let him drive you until you are more comfortable with him and know more about him. Meet somewhere for coffee or something where you can talk and get to know each other and where alcohol is not involved since that dulls the senses a bit. Meeting somewhere to talk, rather than at an event of some sort (concert, game, movie, etc.) is better for now because those other places don't give you an opportunity to get to know each other as much and it will take longer until you feel more comfortable with him.
So, I think giving him your number was fine. Go ahead and give him a call back, set up a "meet" and have fun! Just be cautious.
Best of luck and have a blast!
Hope we get an update! :)
HappyDays
Well, aren't all new dates pretty much strangers?
As others have suggested.... meet him in a public place for your date, if you give him your number, be sure that your number is unlisted or give him your cell #, have a friend call and check on you during the first few dates... and have fun!
It's OK to be cautious and smart... but don't let your guard down.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~