scared of dating again
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| Sat, 12-09-2006 - 10:43pm |
i know, i'm single and i shouldn't be afraid of going out on a date again but i am. i've had my ups and downs and lately i've been feeling a little better about being single. i just made a new female friend who's also single and the more single friends i find the better i feel about my single status.
anyway, here's the story. i signed up for match.com a while ago and but cancelled it after 3 months. i left my profile up and received forwards every now and then but most of the guys sounded strange. i was going to take my profile down when i suddenly received a message from this guy who just happens to live right in my neighborhood. we have a lot in common, he's the right age, he's attractive, he doesn't sound like a psycho... anyway, he wants to chat more and meet up for coffee... i just have a good feeling about it overall.
i really haven't been too keen with the idea of meeting someone on the web. i've felt like it's a bad idea all around and i signed up only because some friends have raved about it and i really feel like i've hit a brick wall with the dating scene here in my city. still, i don't like the idea of saying to my future children i met your father on the web because i couldn't find anyone and i hit 30. i know that's not a good attitude but i can't help it. the last time i really tried the web a few years ago i just ended up meeting freaky men with issues and that really turned me off to it.
i've also been a little hooked on my ex still and although i'm pretty sure he's moving on we still talk every now and then but i have to just let go...
but this guy just sounds really decent-- and chances are i've passed him a million times on the street in the neighborhood. who knows... but why am i so scared about this??? why am i more wary than excited? i know i want it and he sounds great but i'm still nervous.

hello sunnygirl
as a new member i dont know the if iam doing this right? but here goes iam a young 32 old guy who is not just scared of dating more of the point of not ever dated before.
to solve this i have signed up with introduction agencies whether or not this is a good thing i dont know, but at least iam trying. iam more of the person who is scared of the unknown, and totally blind to any kind of signals the female sex shows.
so any suggestions as to how you have overcome your fear, would help me i think.
ok thats enough for now dont want this to drag on too long.
shysean
iv_sunnygirl...
Whether you know it or not...you've got 2 DIFFERENT ISSUES HERE! At least PG thinks so!
#1: Can I become "brave enough to date?" Sure...but what you see ON-LINE isn't necessarily what you're gonna get! So unless you can agree to mutually meet up in A PUBLIC PLACE...or are willing to trust the image "after he has downloaded his picture", you might want to set your potential 'dates' closer to home?
#2: If you're still "hooked on the EX"...any potentially interested boyfriend is gonna be left out in the cold? Simply because you won't provide a fair judgement about HIM while your head has fantasies about a man "who simply didn't work out the first time around?"
Pianoguy
Think of the web as an online coffee shop.... I mean, if you were that leery of the web thing, you wouldn't have signed up on match.com.... meet this guy in a public place and see how it goes.
As for your EX.... you've got to just move past that... and meeting someone new might just be the trick to start thinking about new things.
Good luck!
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~