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should I keep seeing him?
| Wed, 12-20-2006 - 11:23am |
I've been on three dates with a guy I met through a friend. He's a nice and attractive guy and I'm pretty sure he's interested in ME, and not just sex-with-me, because after three dates he hasn't made that sort of move that would imply he just wanted sex, and he still wants to see me again for number 4. So anyways, that's all fine and I think that I like him, too, but the problem is that I know that I'm still not over my ex. I dated my ex for almost three years and I never loved anyone before him. He definitely changed in the last few months of our relationship, so I know that I wouldn't want to be with him NOW, but I still really miss the him I used to know.
It's been four months since we broke up and I want to get out there and meet someone new. I have fun with this new guy, but I find myself comparing him to my ex. What I mean is I like him, but I feel like I don't like him "as much" as my ex. But then my ex and I dated for so long and we were friends for months before we started dating, so there wasn't the awkwardness of getting to know someone.
So, should I keep seeing the new guy and give this a chance? Are the first few dates usually awkward?
It's been four months since we broke up and I want to get out there and meet someone new. I have fun with this new guy, but I find myself comparing him to my ex. What I mean is I like him, but I feel like I don't like him "as much" as my ex. But then my ex and I dated for so long and we were friends for months before we started dating, so there wasn't the awkwardness of getting to know someone.
So, should I keep seeing the new guy and give this a chance? Are the first few dates usually awkward?

Yes!... As you said, you're still getting to know each other.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
rathernotsaymyname...
Your ivillage 'user name' got PG's curiosity! Are you a celebrity or someone ALL OF US KNOW?
Going beyond the above question...I think you have to resolve the fact that your 4-month break-up signalled the END of 'an emotional life chapter'---and now you're living a new one? Unless you have "high hopes" (quoting the Sinatra tune from the late 50s) for a reconciliation with the EX...PUT HIM OUT OF YOUR MIND...NOW!
There are NO RULES or CONDITIONS dictating that you HAVE to substitute anybody else for a former b/f! SO DON'T!!!
Enjoy making new friends without assuming that any of them will become "Mr. Right?" If any friendship is supposed to go one step up...it'll happen! Don't rush the process, okay?
Best wishes and warm thoughts...
Pianoguy