Too Anxious

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Registered: 06-22-2006
Too Anxious
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Thu, 12-21-2006 - 9:01pm

I have recently started dating after ending a 4 year relationship (6 months ago) that ended very badly. I have been brutally honest about my past relationship, and he seems okay with it. In fact he took it all in very well. I really like him. We met on dating site. We talked via email/IM for week, then by phone for another week. Then we went on 2 dates last week and another date this week. Last night when he dropped me off, we kissed for the first time. I was a bit nervous, I really wanted, but felt nervous. I know I held back a little a bit.

Well, I suffer from anxiety. I am medication for it. He knows this also...of course he is taking one of the medication I take also. But I find myself worrying over stuff...did he enjoy the kiss, did he sense my nervousness, does he really like me or just want to have sex....I could go on and on. Today I just asked outright, how was the kiss? He asked why I asked...of course it was...I said I was nervous and just wasn't sure how far to go and that I don't want to put out the slutty vibe, but wanted to show affection. Should I have not done that? Is that a turn off? How do I keep my worries down? Is it too soon? I really like him....I just hate worrying...

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Registered: 12-12-2006
In reply to: me_again2006
Fri, 12-22-2006 - 5:25am

> Today I just asked outright, how was the kiss? He asked why I asked...of course it was...I said I was nervous and just wasn't sure how far to go and that I don't want to put out the slutty vibe, but wanted to show affection. <


I think you handled it masterfully.

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Registered: 06-22-2006
In reply to: me_again2006
Fri, 12-22-2006 - 6:34am

Thanks Jim,

We talked again last night. We talk every night. He asked me if I felt insecure because of what happened before, I explained things as I just did here. He reassured me and said that I could trust him to tell me the truth. I am glad I just put it out there.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: me_again2006
Sat, 12-23-2006 - 9:27pm

Hi there~


I think that as we have


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~