Hard to Get ?

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Registered: 08-05-2006
Hard to Get ?
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Sat, 12-30-2006 - 11:39am

I have been reading alot about the "games people play" and some of you know that I am relatively new to the dating scene, but I am genuinely confused about when the game is played. For example, if you are "just friends" and then the ignore and chase starts isn't it suppose to lead somewhere! LOL Also, if you just meet someone and than you go out,(cuz howelse would you get to know them) then you start the hard to get? Again, do you each have a turn or what?, or is it different with each person? I am starting to think that someone is too indecisive about me and maybe dating in general, it should be fun shouldn't it, and feel right?

Your help would be greatly appreciated!

Suzie

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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: suziekitten
Wed, 01-03-2007 - 3:53pm

Well Suzie...


I'm not into the games.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 07-21-2006
In reply to: suziekitten
Sat, 01-06-2007 - 6:50am
How about you become one of the "non game players". Playing with emotions and acting like you don't want something when you do only confuses your partner. I say this with old sage wisdom...men are very simple creatures. They do not like women who try to confuse them. Men love honesty and are attracted to women who hold themselves above the petty emotional games that some play. If you want him, let him know. Men do not play "hard to get" because basically they aren't.
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Registered: 08-05-2006
In reply to: suziekitten
Sat, 01-06-2007 - 8:04am
Hi Deb,
Thanks for your reply.Really it does make alot of sense doesn't it?,that they would be confused because they are conditioned to believe that we are confusing to begin with , but, I was trying to figure out when they do that as well, and so to show i was interested as well to play. Ya know what that really isn't me anyway (game playing) and so I would probably send out the wrong signal such as disinterest. So, no games for me, and I am glad to know that other people feel the same way as well, this way avoidance would be disinterest and not "hey I like you"!
Suzie