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| Mon, 01-22-2007 - 8:53pm |
I'm a 36 year old single white female. Have never dated much.My dating life has been even worse the last 10 years. I'm getting lonely and bored. Want to date and fall in love. But i'm scared of being hurt.Plus usally guys i like don't like me back and guys that like me i usally don't like. I tend to attract jobless losers and guys who are needy.

Well, would you rather be lonely and bored... or scared of being hurt?
I think that when I date, I just try to take the approach of having a good time for the moment.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
shan12stones...
First...Pianoguy suggests that if you HONESTLY want to be with somebody (for just a few dates or for life)...accept the fact that the relationship MIGHT END UNHAPPILY! There are no guarantees that any couple will "click" long-term.
If you honestly ask yourself "how much networking do I do for myself" when I'm in a social environment (supermarket, church group, enrichment courses, volunteer work) and your answer is "VERY LITTLE"---this is probably the reason you're not connecting with Mr. Right?
There's a big difference between finding a person you'd truly like to spend the rest of your life with...as opposed to just "grabbing for the nearest available man!"
Pianoguy
We normally will attract the type of person that we present ourselves as....in other words, if we act like a loser, we will attract a loser, etc. I am not inferring that you are a loser, just that you need to build up your self-esteem and self-confidence.
I suggest spending time to get to know yourself and a good counselor will aid you in discovering where you came from, who you are, and where you want to go in your future.
Getting to know you prior to finding a companion is always the best path to take.
Edited 1/24/2007 5:17 am ET by mistylavender
Karen ~ wildlucky4me
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~