How to Handle Valentines Day???
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How to Handle Valentines Day???
| Fri, 02-09-2007 - 5:39pm |
I have been dating a guy for 6 dates now. The chemistry is there, he says he likes me a lot, we've been intimate, etc. I am new at dating after being in a very long term relationship/marriage. I don't know what is expected on valentines when you are not in a committed relationship, but dating.
He hasn't brought up the valentines subject. Should I wait for him to bring it up??? Ignore it? Should I bring up a discussion about it? Do I buy him a funny card? I am feeling nervous about this.
Thanks.

I'm in the same situation exactly. Here's what I decided to do...
My guy likes baked goodies so I plan on baking a batch of cookies for him and putting them in a nice Valentine's tin or box. I'm going to get a nice card (nothing too mushy) and surprise him by meeting him at the train station after work and giving them to him. I'm not going to say a word about Valentines Day because I feel that this is something *I* want to do and I don't want him to feel obligated. I know he might not have anything for me but I'm ok with that.
These are just my thoughts. I wasn't going to do anything at all but decided that the best thing (for me, anyway) is do to what I want to do without any expectations. The way I see it is he'll know in the future how I do things and can act accordingly.
Good luck!
If you haven't clearly discussed and agreed to exclusivity, then I would not say or do anything for Valentines Day unless he brings it up first.
If you *have* agreed to be exclusive (that's not clear from your post, sorry), then I would bring it up if he doesn't, because to me, once you've agreed to be exclusive, you're in a relationship, and celebrating Valentine's Day together is appropriate. Asking him, "So how do you like to celebrate Valentine's Day?" would be a good way to get the ball rolling if he hasn't said anything by, say, Sunday.
Sheri
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