After my 9 yr marriage ended boy was it tough at first not to call him and tell him about my day but I agree with the other post being supportive by my friends and family helped me out I even got 2 cats they are my best friends and I wrote poetry and started to make scrapbooks about my friends and I then each day got better and each day the missing him decrease and I knew that someday I will be OK and now 2 yrs after my divorce I am happy to say I have found someone better and when it comes to my X I am like why do I miss dumb ass again LOL :)
Boy do I hear you. I'm doing it now. I ended my relationship on Sunday night and it has not quite been week (tonight near 11:30 will be) and this is a 3 day weekend for me. I've been talking with friends, reading, watching tv, working late, and a few other things I have found extremely helpful:
1) Boxed everything up having to do with 'us' and stuck on the top shelf in my closet to decide about another day. 2) Journaling- getting it all out and then some. 3) Thinking forward-thinking about what I want in life and focusing on that. For example I want to lose more weigth, I would like to develop a method for extra income and have found someone who wants me to work a little with her on some projects, I want to think about what I would have in my ideal relationship 4) making vision boards. I am working on a vision board of my strengths what I want in my future. These are also called treasure maps and they are powerful tools due to the focus and intent that you place into them. 5)Get a project- Today I have painted half the ceiling in my apartment. Tomorrow I will paint the other half. When that's done I'll paint the walls and stencil phrases that I have come to like where a wall paper border woud normally go.
I am also cruising allofmp3 for new songs- chick songs and just me songsthat have nothing to do with anyone else songs.- Like Desree "You gotta be"
Above all- I am not talking with him. I actually changed my phone numbers - but that's part of a complcation you may not have. I was involved in part time work for him and will address emails that he sends with woek related questions but not to anything else.
Be strong- glad you posted- I'm going through it too- and don't think jusr because I have a plan of action that it doesn't mean that I don't start crying about 10 times a day- but the only way through it is through it.
Tonight I'm off to a bookstore and perhaps a burger at a local watering hole that has a jukebox.
That's a good question!
I say.... keep busy.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Iwunder71-
Boy do I hear you. I'm doing it now. I ended my relationship on Sunday night and it has not quite been week (tonight near 11:30 will be) and this is a 3 day weekend for me.
I've been talking with friends, reading, watching tv, working late, and a few other things I have found extremely helpful:
1) Boxed everything up having to do with 'us' and stuck on the top shelf in my closet to decide about another day.
2) Journaling- getting it all out and then some.
3) Thinking forward-thinking about what I want in life and focusing on that. For example I want to lose more weigth, I would like to develop a method for extra income and have found someone who wants me to work a little with her on some projects, I want to think about what I would have in my ideal relationship
4) making vision boards. I am working on a vision board of my strengths what I want in my future. These are also called treasure maps and they are powerful tools due to the focus and intent that you place into them.
5)Get a project- Today I have painted half the ceiling in my apartment. Tomorrow I will paint the other half. When that's done I'll paint the walls and stencil phrases that I have come to like where a wall paper border woud normally go.
I am also cruising allofmp3 for new songs- chick songs and just me songsthat have nothing to do with anyone else songs.- Like Desree "You gotta be"
Above all- I am not talking with him. I actually changed my phone numbers - but that's part of a complcation you may not have.
I was involved in part time work for him and will address emails that he sends with woek related questions but not to anything else.
Be strong- glad you posted- I'm going through it too- and don't think jusr because I have a plan of action that it doesn't mean that I don't start crying about 10 times a day- but the only way through it is through it.
Tonight I'm off to a bookstore and perhaps a burger at a local watering hole that has a jukebox.
Be well.
Melissa