boob job insults

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Registered: 02-28-2007
boob job insults
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Wed, 02-28-2007 - 2:31am

I have always been shy about having tiny breasts and decided to get small breast implants about 10 years ago. They are a complete success surgically and aesthetically -- no discomfort or scarring, etc. I got them when I was married. My husband was against the surgery at first but then he went along with it as he saw that it was important to me. I thought that I would be married forever to him so I did not think about dating again.
The problem is that now I am single and wanting to date again. I am afraid to be seen naked now. I hear so many insults about "boob jobs" and how ugly they are. Especially my acquaintances --they seem to be most condescending.
So now, even though they are smallish, I am so embarrassed of my implants!! Btw, I found that taking them out is major surgery so don't suggest that. Here's my question: should I tell a potential lover in advance that I have 'em and avoid the rejection in the bedroom?

Pretty ironic , eh?

Kate

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Registered: 10-16-2006
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 8:13am

Hi curious,

I see no reason to tell a potential lover about your breast implants. You say the surgery was very successful, and that you got implants on the smallish side. Frankly, a man might not be able to tell the difference. And I'd have to say most men prefer a large-breasted woman to begin with, although plenty of men really don't care.

And what's with your acquaintences making condescending remarks about boob jobs?? Are they saying that about you?? Crikey.

Could there be something else that is making you feel a little insecure about a relationship with a new man? I can understand this if you haven't dated since your divorce.

Bottom line: if you're feeling insecure about being intimate with a new man, maybe you need to slow down until you feel comfortable with him.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 12:30pm

Well, I might think a conversation about the curiosity of exploring the bedroom might come up before you actually took that step.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 02-28-2007
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 7:03pm

hi florida & wildlucky-- thanks for your suggestions.

Yeah-- it would be terrible if my friends talking about being grossed out by implants if they knew I had them!! No, these remarks come about when people I don't know intimately are chatting and the subject comes up. I tend to hang with arty/ "natural" types who describe themselves as spiritually aware. In general, they are really nice, interesting folks.

Nevertheless, my acquaintances (male & female) all seem to have a definite preference against implants... and why not? Frankly if I was different, I would not understand the decision to get implants!! Aesthetically, big breasts are not prettier than small to me... I am just a tall, large woman and felt that having a flat chest left me feeling masculine.

I just feel fragile I guess... but I won't break.

Thanks again
:-)