How do you

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Registered: 02-26-2007
How do you
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Mon, 03-05-2007 - 3:44pm
Get over the anxiety of starting over again?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: ajw34
Mon, 03-05-2007 - 7:14pm

Go at your own pace. Do only what you are ready to do. Take your time.
I divorced nearly 10 years ago. I just now am starting to step out there and get my feet wet. I have enjoyed the last 10 years. I really got to know myself. I learned what I really could live without and what I missed. I have gotten involved with my church singles group and I am really enjoying the activity and the having fun with other people. I am enjoying it so much that we keep planning group events just so we can all get together and have a great time. There are about 20 of us, of varying ages between 30 and 79!!! We have potlucks, bowling, kareoke, weekend trips, movies, dinners, dances etc etc. I feel so comfortable. I really am not searching for a mate. And since this is a church group with high moral standards, it is not a sleep around kind of meet up thing. The guys know it, the gals know it, and it won't happen.

Last month I went on my first date. It was not easy. But I made it through. I didn't slow dance, because I was just not ready. (sad but the only person I have been in the arms of was my X. We met at 15 and were married for almost 20 years) No bed of roses, but being in the arms of "another" man invading my space....I was not ready for. So I backed of the dating and will just continue to enjoy the activities, parties, get-togethers on a group basis. Funny how the more people I meet the more I find in common with so many of them. It may be that we have the same interest(s), know the same people, or have had a similar situation.

Got my toe wet, went under, and decided to walk ashore--for awhile anyway.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: ajw34
Tue, 03-06-2007 - 8:52am
Be smart, take it slow.... but do get out there.

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 03-10-2007
In reply to: ajw34
Sat, 03-10-2007 - 9:07am
I got sick and tired of "the game players out there", i joined a dating agency, i couldn't believe it, thought it was for desperado's, but i fast change view since joining, i realise that some people's lives are just to busy to go out and find
"the one", you put your details in, what your looking for and they e-mail you, your under no obligation to e-mail back, its safe and easy. http://elite.easydatingagency.com/