Just some advice

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Registered: 03-12-2007
Just some advice
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Tue, 03-20-2007 - 12:59pm
So let me set this question up first. Met a guy this past weekend (St.Pattys day)and totally hit it off (we were at a bar). We are both very good looking and new that hter was an immediate physical attraction. We ended up talking for like 5 hours that night. We found out that we both are interested in a lot of the same things, had a lot in common. Even showed me pics of different things on his phone.We ended up kissing, a lot! We were at this bar for like 5 hours and at first he was a little drunk and then he sobered up completely. Before the end of the night he asked me for my number and,obviously I gave it to him. we contined to talk for a while. He was going to leave then decided to stay and walk me and my friends home.(We live like 1/4 mile away. It turns out he live like 2 blocks away from me. We were really cute together adn we gave eachother a kiss goodbye, we turned our separate ways adn then i called his name and he came running back to give me another kiss. This was late Saturday night. it's now Tuesday. Should I give up hope that he is going to call? And, why do men do this? Do men get cold feet?
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Registered: 03-04-2007
Tue, 03-20-2007 - 9:20pm
I am unsure why he has not called you. As a man, I would be calling you the next day or so to set something else up, or go to some event. He probably wasn't too serious about being with you and since you say he sobered up, be careful, he may have someone else at home or his interests are just not with you. Personally, unless he was just in it for a bed buddy, then he's a fool. I don't know much about you, so it makes it difficult to say. Are you a successful person, with an education, morals, and good head on her shoulders? I'm just trying to think about what drove him away? Write back.
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Registered: 03-12-2007
Wed, 03-21-2007 - 10:59am

Update: So i hadnt heard from him but last night a girl-friend and 1 went to get a drink at a bar in my town. I was talking about him to her, then whom do i see standing at the bar? Him. He noticed my friend and i then came over to us. I got way too excited and nervous. I really didn't know what to say. He tried to explain why he hadn't called. Literally, he went through the last 3 days of his life, not like i asked him to or anything. Then we were all just gabbing for a while, getting to know eachother better. So ,i asked him if he wanted to go skiing with me this coming weekend b/c hes a racing coach. I was being very friendly about it... next thing you know i find myself kissing him! I don't know how to handle my lustful feelings for him! Im happy that we reconnected but scared that he is going to think the wrong thing about me. I am a professional, educated, beautiful woman(not to be conceited). I also have high morals as well; but for some reason when im around him sparks fly.

So, now its in his plate. If he calls that will be great; if not, then i guess he's just a weirdo cause even my frined was like DUh... he's sooo into you.

Question: How can i control myself around him? Does kissing a boy mean your "loose"? And, how should I make him crazy over me?

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Registered: 03-04-2007
Wed, 03-21-2007 - 9:26pm
I do not believe it makes you loose but if he does not call you again for a few days, then he cannot be too serious. Do not waste time.
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Thu, 03-22-2007 - 10:53am
So... he called last night and let a brief message and said "told you i'd call" i called back he didnt answer. Then later on i called one more time and left a light-hearted friendly message. Kinda weird that he didn't pick up though.... Who knows!
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Registered: 03-04-2007
Thu, 03-22-2007 - 8:13pm
It is obvious he does not care for you, otherwise he would not be playing these games. Dump him, dump him fast, and find someone else who will give you the attention you need.