How do I do it ? about flirting....

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Registered: 09-12-2005
How do I do it ? about flirting....
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Sat, 03-24-2007 - 12:21am

Hi there,
I recently finished a 4.5 year on and off long-distance relationship. I don't think I'm ready for something serious yet, but I miss companionship and well, some intimacy, since I only saw my ex for 2 weeks in the past 9 months.

I tried an online dating service and met with a few guys, but being kind of a serious person, we seem to end up talking about serious things and it would be nice if I was looking for friends, but I want flirting and romance, something that I didn't have for so long. But from the other side, I'm a bit afraid to look like someone "easy". I don't really have problems with sexuality or anything like that, I just want to have nice times but with someone who respects me and doesn't see me just as a sexual object...

I don't know may be because I've been in a relationship for so long and actually I've never had to date, because my exes always initiated contact, I'm not sure how to behave.

What should I talk about? We seem to always end up talking about relationships, politics, I don't know what else....Maybe I'm just meeting serious men ? But they seem flirtacious online...Or it's something in my attitude ?

And I am pretty good-looking and consider myself pretty sexy, so it's not that they have reasons to be like that with me....

Thanks for any insight

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 03-25-2007 - 3:46pm

sireanita...

Pianoguy thinks you shouldn't attempt to 'program any conversation' with anybody! What you talk about is usually determined by 'your moods' and the moment!

On-line dating services AREN'T ALWAYS 'the sure-cure' for loneliness! If S-E-X without any sort of commitment is your objective...then an O.L.D.S. (on-line dating service) has its advantages!

Remember that the words you use in your emails and on-line conversations will often give a man the impression about the 'type of woman' you are! So if you're writing details about yourself that don't necessarily apply in your case...you can't expect us to accurately---"figure you out!"

Pianoguy