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Does he like me?
| Thu, 03-29-2007 - 4:28am |
Ok, so I've been working with this guy for a few months now. From the first time we hung out we clicked. We've been buddies ever since and hang out pretty much every weekend. He's an attractive guy but I find him to be out of my league, like he's too hot for me to have. I feel that way because it seems like he likes the skinny, preppy kind of girls and I am far from either catergory. I'm thick but not too heavy and am still going through a divorce (been seperated for a year and a half). So I didn't think that he was interested because of that alone. But then there are certain things he says in person or in a text message that made me wonder otherwise. Example, I was on the phone with a girlfriend (on speakerphone) and she was telling me about this "great guy she has for me". Now, I've never been a fan of her taste in men, so I was clowning around with her saying "are you sure he's perfect for me? You know how I like them, big broad shoulders and not bean pole skinny". This guy from work is pretty much a bean pole in an athletic sort of way, and doesn't have big shoulders. Anyway, after I got done saying that I heard him say, "well, that leaves me out". I just kept talking to my friend on the phone, fully aware of what I heard and blew it off as nothing. Then my brother was asking me about this guy and I told him what I just told you and my brother says "well duh, he likes you!" Now ever since then my mind is constantly wandering about how he feels, but I still find it impossible to believe. I guess I just wished I would have said something to him (the guy I work with) when he said that to coax something out of him. Because now I'm going crazy, I just wish I knew. Any opinions on this please, I'm losing my mind!!

thejaded_1...
Pianoguy almost avoided this post! But since nobody has offered any suggestions, PG is gonna try???
First...clean up the separation thing NOW. Finalize your divorce before attempting to pursue anybody else.
THE REASON??
Some men will take advantage of a woman's "desperation for love"----will promise you anything---and then leave when you least expect them too! This will mess your head up even more than it is NOW!
Some men view a separated woman as "a red flag!" We'll be polite to you...perhaps become interested in a friendship...but WON'T GO ANY FURTHER THAN THAT!
Every day is a new one. You can't "backtrack" on something you should have said or done! You can only start from the point you're at RIGHT NOW!
As for the girlfriend who "wants to set you up"---do you feel comfortable DOING BLIND DATES? Even if they're chaperoned?
I know I'm not...
Pianoguy
ya never know unless u ask. good luck