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Registered: 02-01-2006
trust
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Wed, 04-11-2007 - 11:03am
I recently am ending a relationship of 2 months with my boyfriend..we have talked about it and its almost over..I am not sad at all and would like to move on with my life and date others. A guy already asked me to play a sport together for fun after we had a drink a few days ago and it went well. Its wierd he asked me for a drink even though he knew i had a boyfriend. Anyway, when we had a drink, i told him im basically almost single and we got along great. The sport date is this Friday. He then keeps flirting about it, and asking and telling me that he wants to cook me dinner. I am 21 and in college and he lives a little bit off campus in the grad school area. He is a grad student and is 24. He keeps suggesting he cooks me dinner which is nice, but I dont really know him yet and don't feel safe going to his house. How do i tell him i dont mind if he takes me to dinner or something else but that i dont really know him yet..how do i say im interested but w o basiclaly telling him i dont trust him. I need to do it in a sly way haha
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: tunatartar
Fri, 04-13-2007 - 9:39am

tunatarter...

3 words from Pianoguy:

NO! NO! & NO!

1. You don't go to his house...he asks you out on a proper date. .

2. Make it clear that you'd like to get to know him and his interests in A PUBLIC PLACE!

3. No "AFTER DINNER" or "AFTER MOVIE" trip back to his house for the first few dates. Make that clear to him NOW!

If he has a problem with any of the above...you'll eventually have "a problem with him?"

Pianoguy

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Registered: 04-15-2007
In reply to: tunatartar
Sun, 04-15-2007 - 10:18am
Absolutely agree with pianoguy! I went on a date many moons ago with a guy who picked me up then drove straight to his house saying he forgot something, it'll only take a minute, and I said "fine, I'll wait in the car" Turns out he was back in a few minutes and we proceeded with the date, but who knows what would have happened if I went in......