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| Wed, 04-25-2007 - 7:19pm |
Hi everyone-
I'm fairly new to iVillage. Posted once on the ask the relationship saver back in November. Posted several times on surviving divorce. I find it's a great sounding board.
Anyways, I am waiting for STBX to agree to divorce decree and will hopefully be divorced sometime in May. Everyone has been telling me things like guys will be "lining up to date you" and "people are just waiting for the dust to settle". So, STBX has kids Monday and I go to eat at a bar and grill and meet someone who wants me to call. I told him straight up I'm not ready to hook up with anyone - I just want to hang out. Today, someone I talked to last Friday, who said when I told him I was getting divorced to call him to meet for lunch, calls me to meet Friday for lunch. I know from lurking on surviving divorce that I need to get my ducks in a row, but is there harm in meeting a few people to "hang out"? I've been together with my STBX for 20 year and married for 12. Both these people know my situation and my intentions.
This may be a no brainer for some people on this board, but like I said, I'm new at this and I need help!!
Thanks

Hi and welcome to the board!
I, personally see nothing wrong if you start making new friends even though your divorce is not quite final yet. You are being honest about your current status and you are going slow. I say go for it! If you were making new female friends to socialize with nobody would think a thing about it.
Thanks for your input.
We did have lunch - had a good time. Asked me to go to NY with him soon. I told him it sounded like fun but we didn't set a date. I did tell him I'm just looking to have fun and hang out again today. He told me to call just to talk. I think I'll wait a few days. It's wierd being out here again.