what in the ****

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Registered: 04-15-2007
what in the ****
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Wed, 05-02-2007 - 7:52pm
no jim is sayn he is moven to florda untill oct . may 13 he is leaven. we was getting along so good . now what ???? help ??????????????
i left him a message on how i felt but he has never said any thing about it. i am soooo confused. he said he would take the detail instead of being layed off and we could go out on a real date then but now he is takeing the lay off and going to florda . what happened ? why did he change his mind ?
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Wed, 05-02-2007 - 7:56pm

Whatever is going on...it's honestly his problem and not yours. I can understand how you would be upset and confused by his actions. But at least you didn't date him, get serious and then have this happen. That would have been a lot harder on you.


Hang in there.....take the time you need to be sad and then, when you're ready, jump back in the game and start looking around for someone new.

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Wed, 05-02-2007 - 9:47pm
well jim and i talked . i had called him n i just flat asked him where i stand in his life. he said he was not sure but he realy likes me a lot more then he shows. then we started to talk about other jobs up here in ohio . he did say with every thing going on at work n stuff he just has not wanted to do any thing. i asked him if he was just leading me on becuase thats what it feels like. he said no he was not leading me on and how could i think of such things like that .i told him i didnt not get any sleep last night due to him telling me this dum stuff. he said he was sorry, oh boy more confused then ever . what to do . n i told him about my new place . he asked all kinds of things about it . if it big how much yard n stuff like that. he was getting ready to go to lucnh at 9:30 but said he would call me back. i need help badly !!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Thu, 05-03-2007 - 12:10am

GOOD FOR YOU!!!! I am so happy that you took the bull by the horns and asked him what the heck he's thinking about you, your situation and dating!!!! I know that can be a scary question to ask but I'm so glad you were brave enough to do it. Now you know what he's thinking. I think things sound a lot more positive than you had thought it was going to be.


Would he accept a little "gentle" help in maybe finding another job in your area? You could suggest some online career sites that he can use for free. If you don't mind me asking, what part of Ohio are you in? I'm in Cincinnati.

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Thu, 05-03-2007 - 1:46am
i am in cin tooo. out in goshen . and jim did call me back after lunch. and yes we have talked about other jobs in
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Thu, 05-03-2007 - 12:12pm
I like Goshen....it's very nice and VERY safe. I live in the city, 5 minutes from downtown. While my part of the street is nice a half mile up the street is one of the worst areas around here.

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Thu, 05-03-2007 - 4:14pm
i work down in cov ky . and jim did call me back last night after his lunch .
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Thu, 05-03-2007 - 8:31pm
just to leet you know a little more . Jim did call me tonight but i was inthe tub so we did not talk very long. told him my ankles are swelling n they hurt. so i was soakn in a real hot tub. i dont know why they are like that but he told me when i get out to sit with them up on the arm of the couch. and not to do any thing. they have been like this for 3 days now. i have an ace bandge on both of them and it feels better.
but any way he said he misses me badly. WOW ! ! ! i said it back . it seems like he does like me alot. i have not called him . i wanted to see if he would call me and he did. befor we got off the phone he said he had some hard cases to work and he would call me back later on he just wanted to see how my day was going so far. i have not told him how deeply i feel for him and dont know if i should . i think he may be the one.