ok what now ?????

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ok what now ?????
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Sun, 05-06-2007 - 6:39pm
Well. Jim still plans on going to Florda till Oct. He has been kinda hintting around he want me to wait for him till he gets back. He has been talking about get a diff job up here till he gets recalled to where we work at now. But he was suppossed top come over this weekend for my girl 11th b-day party. I know its too soon for him to meet the whole family . Just like i had told him i thought it would be nice to ask him . Just like i have a doc app on monday they want to do an eco gram or some thing like that . I know it has to do with my heart. Of course he said no hr couldnt go. I told him i understand be caues its at 6pm and he is at work at 4:30 pm. well any way he now is actting distent to me now and i dont know why .I am thinking about telling him if i am still not seeing any one we can pick up where we left off? should i tell him that or just play his waitn see game . i am so tried of that game
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Tue, 05-08-2007 - 10:25am

I really don't know what to say....he sounds very confused about everything in his life....not just in the dating area.


I think this is one of those times you need to listen to your gut and do what you really feel is right. What ever "feels" right is the way you should go.


I hope this helps.....let us know what you decide to do. Take care!

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Tue, 05-08-2007 - 8:30pm
like all ways jim and i talked. he is worried about my heart . i still have not had to doc call me to let me know what is going on . but any way i have been taken it easy on the salt n stuff. jim is so confused . i can see that now. he said he may not even go to flordia . but if he does he will call me at least once a week and would like to pick things up where we left off. i just plan out asked him what he wanted me to do . i told him i have thought about waitting for him i just wanted for him to call me n stuff. he did say if he did leave he would be back by end of june . after i agreed about thinkng to wiat for him his tone about us had changed agin.for the better i think. i dont know if i want to wait for him. yes i do like him alot but we have not even been out on our first date yet. wow i do know i dont trust men very much at all . i think he is starting to see that tooo. but i am tryn to. we both have things to figure out maybe the time apart will help us both. i just got out of a real bad relationship back in jan 07. he knows it was pretty bad. i had to tell him i was getting off the phone after 20 min so he can work his cases and asked if he would call me after his lunch that would be 10 pm . i hope all is well with you and thanks for your very helpfull answers .
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Thu, 05-10-2007 - 2:38am
I think it's good that you two can sit down and talk honestly with each other, that is really important, in friendship and in a dating situation. Hang in there and keep us posted!!

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Mon, 05-14-2007 - 10:33pm
well on wednessday will we be a week since jim and i have talked.
i am so darn tired of playn his games. one day he wants to be with me then days like this where he dont call. now since he is layed off from work i cant call him. i never did ask him for his home number now i wish i had asked for it. i think of him every day. and wednesday i am stopn smoken. that i am doing for me and my kids. i sure hope he figures out what he wants and real soon . he wants me to wait for him till oct . i dont even know if he went to florda or not. i just want to tell him stop playn these dumb games . its not getting you any where fast ya know. its getting me upset and bout ready to say dont bother me any more. yes i know he is depressed due to not working but he could call and say hey i am ok just wanted to let you know that or some thing .
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Tue, 05-15-2007 - 10:00am
Sorry to hear that he is still going back and forth with things. That must be driving you crazy. I know it would drive me crazy.

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Tue, 05-15-2007 - 5:38pm
yes he is . it is driven me nuts . i am about ready to give up and move on