Baggage + dating = ????

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Registered: 05-19-2007
Baggage + dating = ????
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Sat, 05-19-2007 - 2:43pm

O.k. so I'm new to the dating scene again. I have a fair amount of baggage that was mainly created last year and is why I'm dating once again. Should I spread it all out right away or wait to see if the relationship is real then let them know??

here is the baggage:

My daughter passed away last year at 13 months, I still speak of her alot and she will enter into most conversations, I feel that I should let any prospective dater know up front...

Secondly I'm bisexual due to a long term "experimentation relationship" I had. I do enjoying being with men, and I don't see going back to dating women. But my last long term relationship (my daughter's other parent) was a woman....

I don't want to lie to anyone but I don't know of when or if I should tell that personal information to a prospective partner...

Please help, I've been fighting with this alot in myself....

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 05-21-2007 - 11:05pm

mle 123...

3 Suggestions from Pianoguy:

Suggestion 1: Give yourself and the new man in your life PLENTY OF TIME to become friends. Should things become serious...move on to suggestion #2.

Suggestion #2: After the 2 of you feel comfortable enough with one another, you can bring up the issue about the loss of your daughter. .

Suggestion #3: If you HONESTLY KNOW that you've got "the bisexuality out of your system", there's no point in bringing the issue up!

Pianoguy