Can we stay friends?

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Registered: 03-19-2007
Can we stay friends?
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Sun, 05-20-2007 - 11:55am
I just recently was dumped by my boyfriend of only 6 months. Its disappointing but it was for the best. The only thing I regret is that I didn't have enough time to get to know my boyfriend's brother. We hit it off well when we met as friends although I haven't spoken to him since the break up. I was wondering if I could continue being friends with my ex's brother or should I wait a while?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 05-21-2007 - 10:57pm

smartblondie20...

Pianoguy has a question:

"Did your EX-BOYFRIEND'S BROTHER express any desire to be your friend? Or just felt obligated to like you because you were dating his brother?"

I also wonder if you can just like the brother you didn't date AS JUST A FRIEND? Or if you're hoping for something more?

You can always pop a snail mail friendship card in the mail with a short note asking how things are going? But if you do this and don't get a response...don't pursue things any further.

Good Luck!

Pianoguy

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Registered: 07-10-1999
Thu, 05-24-2007 - 1:08pm
It'd be one thing if you were already really good friends with the brother independent of your relationship with your boyfriend and wanted to continue the friendship. Since you're still just getting to know him, though, then I don't think you should. A lot of people in your ex's position would be really upset by that. It's not worth the potential problems that it might cause.