Younger Or Older

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Registered: 05-11-2004
Younger Or Older
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Fri, 05-25-2007 - 4:49pm

Have you ever dated anyone who was a lot older or younger than you?


What age range are you comfortable dating and what age differences make you uncomfortable?


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Registered: 02-25-2007
Sat, 05-26-2007 - 11:39am

I was in a relationship with someone who was nine years younger than me. Although we often talked about the age difference and if it could work (to which we both said yes) he ended up cheating on me for someone his own age who "understood" him better. I found this out after I moved and changed jobs to be with him.

So, in my experience, NO. BUT there are always exceptions. I would now be willing to date within a couple of years younger and several years older, but that's it.

Just my two cents.

~Kelly~

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Registered: 05-11-2004
Sun, 05-27-2007 - 12:21am

I have been all over the board so to speak when it comes to the men I've dated. I've dated much older men, I was 19 and he was 43. I have dated men who were few years younger than me, but there was never a huge gap like when I have dated older men. My daughter's father is 4

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Registered: 06-06-2003
Sun, 05-27-2007 - 10:55am
I just broke it off with a guy that was about 10 years younger. The break up wasn't about the age at all though. I just realized he wasn't what I wanted. I really don't think I want to date anyone that young again. I think a five year span either way is enough for me.
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Wed, 05-30-2007 - 1:19pm

I've also dated a few men much younger than myself (up to 12 years younger). Only one of them actually became a long term relationship (he was the 12 years younger one). We lived together for almost 3 years when I broke it off (not because of the age difference). We remain good friends to this day even though we live far from one another.

As far as how far either way I would go, in my own experience I have found that when I was younger I preferred older men and now that I am in my later 40s I seem to gravitate toward men that are a bit younger. The why is probably because I am very young minded myself (as well as looking much younger than my age). I find that men my age often are not interested in doing the same things I like to do and I enjoy being in the company of my grown children and their friends. Also, a LOT of men 50+ just do not have the energy to keep up with me! I always told my kids that I won't date anyone younger than my oldest son LOL. But in reality I find most men under about their middle 30s to be too immature for my taste.

Its strange because the gentleman I currently believe is going to turn out to be the love of my life is my exact age, within 2 weeks! But age really has nothing to do with attraction as far as I am concerned.