How soon???
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How soon???
| Fri, 06-01-2007 - 1:16am |
I am recently out of a 4 and a half year relationship. I am just curious as to other people's opinions on..."How soon?" How long should I wait before getting back into dating? I really feel that I am ready and detached from this relationship now. I obviously still have feelings and opinions about the ex and I do not want to "rebound." I don't want to go into a new relationship bringing a a giant pile of baggage behind me...but I don't want to wait to move on with my life either. Any advice? Suggestions?

I was in a 3 and a half year relationship that ended about seven months ago. Because I was now officially single I started getting out with friends and didn't really worry about dating for a few months. Just tried to catch up with friends I had neglected and try to enjoy the stress-free existence that I now lived (getting out of a bad relationship made me feel that way). Eventually the guys in the places I hang with started noticing that I was not attached. By then, I felt like I could move on with my life and so I did.
In other words ... when you actually feel ready, you probably are! Just let it come naturally to you and don't push it too much. The transition is touchy to start with (the first few dates I felt like I was cheating a bit) but it eventually becomes fun! Enjoy your singledom! I know I have :)
I think I'd take things a little slow, look around and see all the different kinds of dating situations there are out there for you to explore. No matter how detached you may feel, you probably need some time to get completely over this.
I hope this helps! Good luck!