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| Fri, 06-15-2007 - 3:51am |
Hello again,
I was hoping for some advice. I've been kind of messing around with a guy from work. He's a real sweetheart and makes me feel good about myself. The problem? He has a criminal past. My ex was basically a bum, and now this sweet jail bird is chasing me. I was wondering if I'm following the same "wrong" pattern as before. I guess what I'm saying is, I just got divorced on Monday(separated a year and a half)so I have my own baggage about that. And his baggage is his past. I guess his past doesn't really bother me so much but I have a feeling it will bother my family. And considering how the last relationship ended, I'm more apt to hear my family out about the situation. What do you think?
I was hoping for some advice. I've been kind of messing around with a guy from work. He's a real sweetheart and makes me feel good about myself. The problem? He has a criminal past. My ex was basically a bum, and now this sweet jail bird is chasing me. I was wondering if I'm following the same "wrong" pattern as before. I guess what I'm saying is, I just got divorced on Monday(separated a year and a half)so I have my own baggage about that. And his baggage is his past. I guess his past doesn't really bother me so much but I have a feeling it will bother my family. And considering how the last relationship ended, I'm more apt to hear my family out about the situation. What do you think?

To me, it would depend on what his "criminal past" was. I have dated 2 men with criminal pasts. One was a former drug dealer who spent time in the federal pen. I dated him in the mid 90's and he had been out of jail for over 4 years. He was clean, sober and wonderful when I was dating him and he still is. The other was a DUI offender who was on house arrest part of the time that we dated. Again, he was a great guy, learned his lesson, did his time and moved on in a positive direction. Maybe this is the case with your friend?
As far as family goes, for me, they can have an opinion but I have the final say. If I make a mistake, it's mine to make and it's none of their business.
I would advise you to follow your gut with this one. I, myself, wouldn't care what my family thought. This guy could be someone really special for you or he could end up just being someone you dated a few times. In the end, things tend to work out they way they are supposed to.
Good luck and keep us posted. ;0)
I look at patterns in my life especially those I care not to repeat. You were married to a bum and now you are starting to consider involvement with someone right out of the chute with an iffy history. Why would you want to do that?
PLUS you are newly divorced and rule-of-thumb advocated by therapists is to not to date right away so you can get on your own two feet emotionally.
What you shared here, I see no compelling reason to be part of his life.
Mark
I think you may be making a mistake settling for someone with a criminal past. Your still hurting and that maybe why someone who notices you makes you feel good about yourself. You need to feel good about yourself anyway!
Take your time and take things slow...........you will find the right person.
Geno