after a 10 year absence

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Registered: 07-01-2007
after a 10 year absence
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Sun, 07-01-2007 - 11:09pm
Well I am 34 and am just beginning to reenter the dating scene. I am not sure how to do that but I am sure I will find my way. I am still single and not married and no kids. I have signed up for a few of the online dating sites but am having no luck with that so far but maybe at some point i will meet someone and get that first date again.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 07-03-2007 - 3:21am

csjstudent...

Pianoguy has never been 100% confidant when it comes to "on-line dating sites!" Many of them just want your money! However..PG knows that they DO work for some?

Rather than put all your money into an O.L.D. site...what's wrong with a little OUTSIDE CIRCULATION of your own? Join a sports, activity or special interest group...do a little volunteer work...attend church (which believe it or not is a good way to make new friends) and keep yourself open to any and all possibilities!

Being 34 certainly doesn't qualify you into the "I'm gonna become AN OLD MAID OR A SPINSTER" category. The only issue I can see might be connected to 'your biological clock'---assuming you wish to have a child or two in the future?

Good Luck in your search for MR. RIGHT!

Pianoguy

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Registered: 07-19-2007
Thu, 07-19-2007 - 6:24pm

csjstudent,

I recently started dating again after a self-imposed long hiatus. After months of procrastiation, I started using OLD. It has worked for me because I feel more in control of the situation since I am still a bit rusty and nervous.

One thing I promised myself when I did start OLD is that despite my own insecurities and nervousness, I was going to be 100% out there with it and try dating guys and new situations I would not have done before. Being the scholar I am, I forced myself to think of the first three months as just practice. I also set a goal, 5 first dates in two months and no committing. I am almost there!

It has been fun, weird, nerve-wracking and a couple times down right embarassing (I hope I look back on those moments in 30 years and laugh, but right now they just make me blush). But at least I am out there getting used to this whole game again. Since I have distanced myself from the outcome and committed to just having fun, it is a lot less scary.

I think it is all about attitude. I am also fortunate in living in a large city where I probably won't see most of the guys ever again. :)

GOOD LUCK!
Just have fun and be true to what you need!

geministingray