What am I doing wrong?
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What am I doing wrong?
| Fri, 07-06-2007 - 10:39pm |
I have been divorced eleven years. I have finished raising my kids, and they are out on their own. I was not interested in dating while they were here. Two years ago, a married co-worker and I became very close. And while, we didn't technically 'have sex', our relationship did get too physical. Now, all I seem to attract are married men. That's not what I want. I want to be wooed and be able to go out and be seen as a 'normal' couple. Truly, I can not see that I am acting any differently than I ever have; but the only people who seem to be attracted are married!

I don't know what you are "doing wrong" per say, but I do understand where you're coming from.
Can I ask, where do you usually meet men in general? Maybe a change of dating scenery is needed?
I work in administration at a school. So, I do have the opportunity to network quite a bit through sporting events, association meetings, out-of-town seminars, etc. I go to the usual places, as well. I have always met guys pretty easily, but never have thought they would be 'interested' in that way. Even in high school and college I had more guy friends than girl friends. They never seemed as petty or judgemental. It was just easier to be myself with them. I guess having a brother fours years older just made it easier to feel comfortabe around guys.
I guess, with all this in mind, it makes it harder to understand how I seem to attract married guys rather than emotionally available guys. And, no matter how much they say I'm so different and they adore me, the bottom line is they're married!
I'm kind of into the subconscious labels we have on our forehead. Even if you don't have a clue what your label is saying, obviously married men do, and are interested. So consciously try to change your label? Start making your mantra "married men - stay away - Emotionally Available men - take me I'm yours" Keep saying that to yourself and hold your back up straight while thinking about it - any time you are around new men. And I truly believe that you will start to get the attention of Single guys. Good Luck!!!
~ Kim
Ya know what...there's just a lot of married men out there looking for a side dish, quite frankly. Pity the wife and be glad your not married to these jerks.
You will attract the singles.
Lou