Should I have called?

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Registered: 11-06-2006
Should I have called?
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Thu, 07-26-2007 - 1:31pm

Hi Everyone-

I've been out of the game for so long I need help-

I've been with the same person since high school (20 years), married 12 years, and now divorced for 6 months.

Anyways, I met someone at a local bar I go to once in awhile. He came and sat next to me, started talking, he gives me his business card and tells me to call his cell if interested in his business thing (construction). He gets a phone call and basically disappears out the back door (He is a regular and I've seen him there a few times) I go home and walk my dog and I decide to call and left a message saying - "Jeez, you left out the back door without saying good bye. I just wanted to say I enjoyed talking with you and have a good night".

I figured nothing ventured nothing gained. But was I being a pain in the *ss? TIA

Brenda
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 07-26-2007 - 5:45pm

My first inclination would be talk with him next time at the bar.

But your message was fine. I wouldn't fret over it if I were you.
Glad you had a nice time.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-06-2006
Thu, 07-26-2007 - 9:08pm
Thanks-It will probably be awhile before I show up at the bar because I don't know when EX will take the kids next. So I am hoping to run into him in the future. He was a nice guy but he got really quiet at one point where I even said what's wrong. I think he went out back for a smoke and went into lala land if you know what I mean. God is this different. Thanks for responding
Brenda
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Registered: 05-11-2004
Thu, 07-26-2007 - 10:13pm

I think your message was perfect!!! It's a great way to let him know that you enjoyed his company!!


Let us know how things turn out. ;0)

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Registered: 07-20-2003
Fri, 07-27-2007 - 7:23am

I'm back on the dating scene again too. After 11 years of marriage - and I forgot how confusing men can be. However, one thing I have found out in the last 7 months, is the more elusive you are the more they are interested. So leaving one message is good. But don't call him again. Let him call you. So long as your number isn't set to private, he has it on his cell phone now.

If you are getting back out though and are interested in dating, again. Is there anyway you can start a schedule with your ex on every other weekend for him to take the kids?

*hugs*
~ Kim