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Registered: 07-03-2007
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Thu, 08-09-2007 - 3:26pm
I am new to this board. I have recently gotten out of a marriage that lasted 3 years, we were together for a total of 7 years. So needless to say my dating skill are a little rusty. I am a little wary about this guy that I met here is the story. I was at a local bar one day after work with a girlfriend. This cute guy walks in and sits about 2 seats away. I was only staying for a couple of beers beacuse I was going bowling with my best friend and her kids. I talked briefly with this guy and told him it was nice to meet him but I had to leave. Well I got to the bowling alley and about 30 mint later he showed up. turns out he knows my BF, they went to school together. Anyway he joins us and we have a great time.He tells me that he is recently divorced and ask me what I am looking for. I told him I am looking for nothing in particular. He says he wants someone to see on a regular basis but not get too serious too quickly. I am fine with that I do not need to jump into anything to soon. So we go out again the day after that and have a great time. he was with his kids over the weekend and we have talked several times this week. We are supposed to go out after work. What I want to know is what are ya'lls opinions about what he is looking for. I take what he said to mean dating, but am a little worried that he might mean hooking up only. I am just a little rusty with the whole dating lingo. Sorry so long. Thanks for listening.

 

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Registered: 05-11-2004
In reply to: cubbiesgrl
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 1:19pm

Hi and welcome to the board! I'm glad you found us.


To me, I think he means exactly what he said, that he wants to see someone, take things slow and not get too serious too quick. If he were just looking for a hook up he would have made a major move in that direction already and if you said no he'd be gone already.


He sounds very nice, like he has a good head on his shoulders as far as how he is approaching dating you. I think it all sounds very positive. ;0)


Keep us posted on how things are going, it's sounds very promising to me.

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Registered: 07-03-2007
In reply to: cubbiesgrl
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 1:31pm
Thanks fastlaney. I feel the same way but is good to get someone else's opinion. We actually went out last night. We went to a local pub and had a few drinks and played some bar games with some of his friends. He was real affectionate, telling me I looked nice. he even asked what I was thinking about.We went out to the car before we left to talk a little in private. ( ok ok and maybe just make out a little :). Any way he said he liked the way the Relationship was going, and we were too old for all the head games. He also said he wanted us to just see each other and see where it goes. I totally agree. I think it is refreshing to see a man just be honest about a relationship instead of playing all the head games. I look forward to seeing him next week. Thanks for the advice.

 

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Registered: 10-19-2007
In reply to: cubbiesgrl
Fri, 10-19-2007 - 9:23pm
Very exciting!!! It sounds like things are going very well. I too have just gone through a divorce and I honestly have no idea what on earth to say when asked what I am "looking for"!