dating over 50

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Registered: 08-29-2007
dating over 50
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Wed, 08-29-2007 - 4:40pm
Am going on a date for the first time since the 1970s with a man who sought me out because we dated in graduate school -- he has not seen me since. I do not look the same and neither does he (he sent a photo, I did not). I weigh a lot more (a fact I alluded to). I travel extensively and have business meals with men all the time -- never at a loss for words, never feel self conscious. This is making me anxious.
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Registered: 05-11-2004
In reply to: macyamon
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 10:56am

I think it's normal to be a bit nervous.....hopefully that may add to the overall excitement. ;0)


I have found that old friends, from school and work, are the most "forgiving" of my figure changes because they have changed too. Relax and enjoy this old friend and see where it takes you. Whether it's just a renewed friendship or the love of your life I'm sure you'll have a wonderful time.


Let us know how it goes. ;0)

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Registered: 08-30-2007
In reply to: macyamon
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 3:22pm
Don't worry about it. I bet some of the men you have business dinners with look a lot better than him. You make it through dinner with them. Be yourself, that is who he remembers. When you see him for the first time just say "see i have more to love now". Just dress to kill. Don't forget the heels.
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Registered: 08-30-2007
In reply to: macyamon
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 9:07pm
Relax. He is probably more nervous than you. Be yourself. Nobody looks the same 30 years ago. It helps to not have too high of an expectation other than to have a nice time. You don't have to have further contact unless there is a spark
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Registered: 04-02-2007
In reply to: macyamon
Sun, 09-02-2007 - 10:31pm

God, I can relate to your message! I've been dating for around 2 years, but I remember my first date after the divorce and I still feel the same way.

I married in my late 20's when I was slender, youthful, "cute." Now at 52 I am overweight and "mature." It is very difficult.

And yet, like you, I have a lot of practice having professional dinners and lunches, talking to people in a work setting, etc. I'm more at ease in some ways than I was as a young woman, but I am not comfortable with dating.

Hope your date went well.

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Registered: 08-25-2004
In reply to: macyamon
Mon, 09-10-2007 - 1:43pm

Oooo...I want to know, too, how your date goes.

Lou