Asked out via email - by younger guy?
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| Mon, 09-03-2007 - 12:12pm |
Hello - posted my situation elsewhere, but am desperate for as many opinions as I can get because I have no one to talk too - my friends & co-workers would not understand.
I'm 45, Jon 27. We were co-workers who got along great despit the age gap. I soon had a crush on him & was sure he had one on me - but he had a live-in gf! I fantisized about us getting together often - but brushed it off due to the age gap - not to mention the gf. Jon quit months ago, but we still emailed each other just to say "Hi".
Last Fri he emailed me at work saying "I miss you - I know you will probably say no, but please let me take you out." I was thrilled & flattered - he's asking me on a date! Then I thought "Maybe this is just dinner with a freind & not a date at all." And if he is asking me on a date - is he still w/gf?
A few minutes later another young co-worker told me that he & Jon were out the night before & were talking about me (he said with raised eyebrows). I look at the email again & see it was sent at 12am. I thought - Oh - he was drunk & I start doubting his intentions are genuine, but rather something done in a drunken state.
I needed clarification - so I ask if he was drunk when he sent the email - he says yes, but that doesn't change the way I feel - I still want to go out w/you. I try to find out if it a "date" by asking if he wants to plan a get together with others from work "No, I just want to see you"
I'm too chicken to ask about the gf - I'm too chicken to come right out & say "Are you really asking me on a "date"?" I can't believe this younger guy would want to go out with me - someone who is old enough to be his mother! At the same token I'm totally excited about the possibility of seeing him in a romantic way - age gap or not we get along so well.
I agree to go to dinner - he asks for my home email address & said he'd email me at home this weekend so we could make plans. It's now it's Monday & still no word from him.
Did I scare him off with my questions? I really like this guy & want to pursue this. But, does he? Maybe no follow-up email is his way of telling me it isn't going to happen. If I do hear back from should I tactfully ask is this a date - and if so are you still with your gf? Opinions please! Should I go ahead and email him to ask what's going on?
God - I feel like an emotional & unsure teenager again. Can anybody else out there relate?

Yes, most definitely ask him if he is still with his girlfriend.....you have every right to know before you accept his invitation.....even if it turns out it's not a date and just a casual friend thing. BUT for what it's worth....I do think he means it's a date.
I have several male friends who are dating women who are older than them, some by a large gap.