first date...now what?

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Registered: 09-23-2006
first date...now what?
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Thu, 09-13-2007 - 11:33pm
So I met this guy at a party and we really hit it off. He IMed me nightly for a week. Then he asked me out to dinner and it went really well. He said he would call me. Since dinner only a week ago, we've talked on the phone and online briefly, but he's definitely not as persistent as before. I don't know what's going on...I thought the date went well. I initiated our last online conversation, so I feel like I shouldn't contact him again.
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Registered: 05-11-2004
Fri, 09-14-2007 - 3:54pm
I know that some people will disagree with me but I really thinking calling a guy is fine. I think if I were you I'd call and ask him out for another date.

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Registered: 09-30-2007
Sun, 09-30-2007 - 7:29pm

It is so great to see that there are people out there goin thru the exact same issues that you are!

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Registered: 10-02-2007
Tue, 10-02-2007 - 6:48pm

Mom - I'm not as aggressive as you, but I too wonder why they don't call as often as we'd like them too or as often as we'd like to call them.

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Registered: 09-30-2007
Tue, 10-02-2007 - 9:57pm
I just want to be me...if I want to call him, I call him...if I don't want to talk to him...I don't call him...all this "treading lightly" so we don't run him off crap sucks!
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Registered: 10-02-2007
Wed, 10-03-2007 - 8:29pm
But here's my question...like right now, I'd love to call the new guy I've met, but he hasn't called me in a few days.
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Registered: 09-30-2007
Thu, 10-04-2007 - 2:57pm
Exactly!
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Registered: 08-30-2007
Fri, 10-05-2007 - 8:39pm
Go quiet on him. Most guys want someone that is not overly aggressive. He has to want you and you can help that along by not acting mean or indifferent but quiet. If he felt any connection, he will get back with you. If not, you will not have looked like you were in hot pursuit. The only woman I know that asked a guy out is now divorced. Good luck