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| Tue, 10-09-2007 - 5:08pm |
I am finally thinking about dating again. I didn't realize until talking with my friend over the weekend that I haven't dated a good guy in a very long time. I knew I wanted to date,but I didn't realize that in the past, most of them were either losers or they weren't ready to date me.
I have been talking to this guy online for about a month. In his very first email he said "I nearly fell in love with your picture, you are so beautiful." and he didn't pressure me to write him back, but he was glad when I did. The thing is, my pictures only really show my face, and while it doesn't always bother me, I can be termed as "terminally chubby" (as in, no matter what I do, I am not a slim girl.) He seems like a really great guy, good job, older than me (7 years, that is a tad scary), good sense of humor, we have similar looks on life etc. And now he wants to meet. I said I would, but now I am freaking. It has been a long time, should I not treat it like a date? How do I keep things casual? What if he is disappointed by the rest of the package? How do I keep from talking myself out of this? I am great when it comes to other peoples relationships, but I am horrible when it comes to my own. HELP!!
I have been talking to this guy online for about a month. In his very first email he said "I nearly fell in love with your picture, you are so beautiful." and he didn't pressure me to write him back, but he was glad when I did. The thing is, my pictures only really show my face, and while it doesn't always bother me, I can be termed as "terminally chubby" (as in, no matter what I do, I am not a slim girl.) He seems like a really great guy, good job, older than me (7 years, that is a tad scary), good sense of humor, we have similar looks on life etc. And now he wants to meet. I said I would, but now I am freaking. It has been a long time, should I not treat it like a date? How do I keep things casual? What if he is disappointed by the rest of the package? How do I keep from talking myself out of this? I am great when it comes to other peoples relationships, but I am horrible when it comes to my own. HELP!!

Hugs to you....I know where you're coming from.
Just take a deep breath and jump! I'd try to look at this as meeting a potential new friend, not just a potential person to date. If for some reason he doesn't like you because you're chubby than it's his loss and you'd be well rid of him. Don't talk yourself out of this....you deserve someone great and he just might be that person.
Good luck and keep us posted. ;0)