Am I being a bitch?

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Registered: 07-04-2007
Am I being a bitch?
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Wed, 10-17-2007 - 4:12pm
I met this new guy a month ago. He seems really nice, sweet and we get along. We've gone out several times together and I enjoy hanging out with him. There is only one thing that bothers me. Every other text message, message online, or scentence out of his mouth is a flirtacious compliment. I just feel like it's too much. I already know he's interested in me, so he doesn't have to keep making those remarks 24/7!! I really want to get to know him more as a person and not so much mushy remarks. Am I being a bitch!? I wan't to say something to him about it but don't want to come off as being stuck-up or rude. I appreciate the comments but feel like sometimes its just TOO much. Also last time we were together he said something along the lines of "we are gonna need to talk about us soon"...as in relationship...I have only known him for 1 month!! Whats the appropriate dating period before a relationhip? My last relationship which lasted almost 3 years, I dated him for about 3 months first. I just feel like he is so eager, and I want him to calm down I just don't know what to do or say!!
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-22-2006
In reply to: mx87
Fri, 10-19-2007 - 2:42pm

Ugh!


I totally get where you are coming from and no, you are not being a bitch!

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-13-2006
In reply to: mx87
Fri, 10-19-2007 - 4:01pm

I've been reading this book called "Getting to I Do". And in it , it says that as a woman you have the right to tell a man what you are uncomfortable with etc. If you don't do this & it continues like this he will do other things that you are not comfortable with.


I dated this guy a few years back that did the exact same thing to me and it was sooo annoying.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-02-2007
In reply to: mx87
Fri, 11-02-2007 - 11:29am

No, you're not being a bitch at all, that would drive anyone crazy simply b/c it doesn't sound sincere. If someone compliments me too much I wonder why they're being so nice. The only time incessant compliments are ok is if it's from your girlfriends or your sister when you're going through a bad breakup & you need a little confidence boost.


And as for the relationship talk, yes, I think one month is too soon unless the both of you feel the same way. It sounds like you're just not that into him. If you really were into him you would be thrilled that he brought it up first.