Moving on
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| Mon, 10-29-2007 - 2:19pm |
Well, after a little over a year my boyfriend has just broken up with me. It was very spur of the moment. We haven't been fighting, everything has been great and then he just slaps me in the face with this. He says he isn't happy (but can't give a reason for the unhappiness) and he told me he is honestly scared of settling down. This is his first serious relationship and I guess he just can't commit to me. I understand where he is coming from and if he isn't happy I will be the last to try and stop him from leaving me. I honestly believe that there is someone else. He swears there isn't but why else would this come about so suddenly? I just don't understand because he says he loves me and no one has ever treated him as good as I have and I was the best thing to ever happen to him. I don't understand how you can leave someone and break their heart while confessing your love for them. Isn't that like an oxy moron? I just wondered if any of you can shed a little light on this. Up until this weekend we had made plans for the future and he seemed happy like he was looking forward to spending his life with me. Now it's different all of a sudden. I'm okay now and I am trying to move on with my life. I'm worried about the dating game. It seems like I have this endless string of long term relationships and they always end up with my heart broken. I don’t know what it is I lack or don't give to a relationship to make it work. I just really don't understand what happened. I really don't think I should date anymore. I'm not sure if there is anyone out there for me and if there is do I really want to keep getting my heart broken every year or two? The answer is no. I can't handle all this heart ache. I think I have a tendency to give my all in a relationship and don't get much in return. I honestly don't think relationships are worth all the bad things I feel when it's over.

Thank you so much for your response. I do understand that he is scared. He told one of his friends that he is scared because he loves me so much and he just can't be in a relationship right now. I think if he didn't love me or loved someone else it would be easier for me to get over. I'm not having such a good time dealing with this. He also said that it isn't me in anyway, but he is obviously dealing with something inside himself. He was my best friend. I only wish I could understand what he is going through and help him with it. I guess my only choice is to bow out gracefully and move on with my life-right? Is there a point for fighting for a love that we both have inside but are scared of? I honestly don't want to give up on him. I know he loves me and I know this isn't what he really wants. He is a mess; he can't make it through work. They say he is miserable. Why? This is what he said he wanted.