Introduction - Support - AGH!!!!

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Registered: 05-09-2007
Introduction - Support - AGH!!!!
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Mon, 11-05-2007 - 3:08pm

Good afternoon all (At least in my part of the world)


My name is Jennifer and I'm dipping my tiny toe back into the dating pool. I've been separated for 14 months now and well on my way to divorce. We are just trying to get all the paperwork in the right place. My ex-husband is a decent man and an amazing father to our daughter, but we just grew in very separate directions.


I go back and forth on this whole dating thing. I think I'm ready to get back "out there" and then when I do, I just hear this little voice telling me to go back and find yourself first.


I've spent this entire past summer bonding with my daughter and finding a lot out about myself. I was a work-a-holic for a while (yes, part of the cause of the divorce). And I really lost my daughter. So, I felt the need to really concentrate on being her Mom and put 125% more into it. We are doing really well now. In regards to myself, I spend a lot of time bettering myself both physically, mentally, and a little spiritually. I really have done so many things that I've always said I wanted to do.


I am hoping many of you can relate, but there seems to be this huge pressure on me (maybe imagined a little too) to get back out there and meet the next Mr. Right. So, I registered on some websites, and have chatted. I actually went on my first date this weekend. He was a perfectly nice guy, but absolutely no future potential. So, I am beating myself up today over how do I tell this guy, "Thanks for the great time. I'm just not ready. You're not it." I've never done it before.


I just really don't think I'm at that emotional place to do this. But, then there are days that I get this overwhelming sense of loneliness and want a guy to fawn over me and call me at night and all that great stuff. Is this normal? Am I going more insane than I already am? :-)

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Registered: 10-22-2007
Fri, 11-09-2007 - 3:03pm

Wow....I know how you feel! I think everything you are feeling is normal! Take a deep breath, center yourself and count to 10. Feel better?