How to handle sex

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Registered: 10-15-2007
How to handle sex
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Fri, 11-09-2007 - 3:43pm

I am newly returning to the "dating game" and a bit unsure on how to handle it. I started having sex with a guy whom I have been friends with for almost 9yrs. I am so comfortable hanging out with him but when it comes to having sex , I kinda freeze up. I always end up analyzing it afterwards like'I should have done this or that"


I was married for 10years and enjoyed sex and giving oral but it just seems so strange to me. I cannot seem to stay in the moment I end up thinking about every move I make or dont make and worry my preformance is or will be bad. I keep thinking DH liked this but that doesn't mean this guy will so should I do it type thing.


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Registered: 05-11-2004
Sat, 11-10-2007 - 12:58am

It may very well be too soon for you.


I have been in your situation in the past and the thing that has helped me "over the hump" so to speak is to practice some relaxation techniques before going out on a date.


I hope this helps you. I'm sorry I don't have a better answer for you. I'm looking forward to hearing if anyone else has some ideas.


Let us know how you're doing.

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Registered: 05-20-2004
Sat, 11-10-2007 - 1:01pm

Had you been with many men before your STBX?