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| Sat, 11-17-2007 - 11:16am |
Hey guys!
I have a problem. I am crushing big time on my personal trainer. I have known him for years; crushed for years. He was a family friend years ago before moving away. Lo and behold, last year I joined a gym, got a complimentary free consult with the personal trainer who turned out to be my old crush. So a year has gone by, and one night out at a bar, a few too many drinks in, both of us, we had some heavy petting and kissing. We both said that we had wanted to take things to a different level and that was how we left it. We have had workout sessions since but no mentioning of that night. What do I do now?

As a personal trainer myself, I can tell you that, ethically, he can't make any further overtures to you unless he severs your professional relationship. Of course, that's not to say that all trainers follow this ethical practice, but we do carry malpractice insurance to cover us in case of various accusations (mostly safety issues) and, if he values his reputation, integrity and livlihood, he'll be cautious.
Aside from HIS professional concerns, I'd say that if you want to take it to the next level, maybe you should be honest with him..? You could start by asking him to refer you to another trainer and tell him that you understand his ethical dilemna and would like to see him on a personal basis. I realize that that takes some nerve or bigtime self-confidence, so maybe you could email him and ask him if he had any thought on that night in the bar.
Good luck!
MF
No, that would be a good solution, IMO (though some may disagree, I suppose). Think of it as you would a teacher, tutor or a coach....the one-on-one nature of the relationship requires that a professional distance be maintained in order for the goal to be effectively accomplished. His being the owner/boss won't interfere with your receiving proper training, so the business goal is maintained. I say go for the new trainer and then let your interest and availability be known!
MF