I know I need to start again but how?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-24-2007
I know I need to start again but how?
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Sat, 11-24-2007 - 11:47am

I am 43 and have been separated for five years. I keep wishing for my husband and I to get back together but now that I have hurt him too much to expect him to love me in that way again. (I did not have an affair or anything, money issues). So how do I move on? I have put weight on which he reminds me of constantly and obviously was once attractive but no one takes a second glance any more. I feel like I have lost the best years of my life and other than old age, nothing else is forthcoming. I have a daughter of 13 who keeps me busy with her social schedule and I know she will be a big obstacle if I ever plucked up the courage to date again.
So it is easier just to stay in the rut and survive. But is there something out there for me that I am missing?

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-17-2007
Sun, 11-25-2007 - 10:58am

I am sorry you feel the way you do.


Is there a possibility that you are

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-24-2007
Sun, 11-25-2007 - 12:20pm

Hi
Thanks for your reply and it really is a great help. You are totally right in all your points and yes I should do all of the above.

Thanks again and here is to a start on the right path!

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-30-2007
Sun, 11-25-2007 - 5:08pm

Just a couple of thoughts that jumped out at me after reading your post:


First, get the divorce.