How do you tell a man you're not interes
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How do you tell a man you're not interes
| Sat, 12-01-2007 - 9:47am |
I've been single almost 1.5 years from a 2 year serious relationship. I have healed and moved on, ready to get back into the datng scene. The thing is that I am always asked out by men I am not interested in, not the ones I know and/or would like to go out with. I am not being picky, I am willing to give the man a chance. I was just asked out last night from a man at church to go with him to his work x-mas party - I really don't know this man, almost a year ago we were at a church card-night, and saw him last night volunteering at a homeless church function. He asked me to think about it, I would have said now right there but I was in a awkward position with people all around me and my boys were across us listening to the whole conversation. When the function was over, I was going to tell him then no, but he zoomed off to his car. He is a lot older than me, the oldest man I have dated was 13 years older than men and pretty much mostly 10 years older. This time around, I want to date someone who is closer to my age, I still have a lot of time to work before retiring and I want to be pretty much in the same place of life. For example retire together, be old together, and maybe physically in the same range together. The other reason I don't want to go out with this man is because their is another man at church that I have my eyes on and I am getting to know him slowly. He is very involved in the church too and knows the guy who just asked me out. I know I have to be honest. Do I just say I am not interested? I know if I say I am going to be busy which I am, then he may ask for a future date. If I know that I am not interested at all, what do I tell the man when asked out? I don't want to hurt the man nor lead him on at the same time. I need help?
Anna

Be honest with him. Tell him that while you appreciate his interest you do not feel comfortable accepting a date from someone who is older than you. You can say that it you're at a place in your life where you do not date anyone who is more than 5 or 8 or ? years older than you....(you pick the number that works for you).
I hope this helps. Let us know how it goes.
Anna
Anna