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Sun, 12-02-2007 - 11:30am

I've been lurking and I see how we all pretty much say the same thing.

LovelyStarr

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Registered: 05-11-2004
In reply to: lovelystarr
Sun, 12-02-2007 - 5:25pm

I certainly understand where you're coming from with the age thing.

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Registered: 12-01-2007
In reply to: lovelystarr
Sun, 12-02-2007 - 7:30pm
Yep, I can relate on the age thing. I'm only 29 and guys are like, "Ohh I was looking for someone younger." These guys are anywhere from 30 to 50 something. So weird, whatever happen to age brings maturity. I wouldn't want to date someone much younger than me.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: lovelystarr
Sun, 12-02-2007 - 8:07pm

Well, I'm 49 and my BF of 4 months is 36 so not ALL men are looking for someone younger.

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Registered: 11-06-2005
In reply to: lovelystarr
Mon, 12-10-2007 - 2:34am

Doesn't it really depend on where you live too? I mean come on I am almost 39 and I live in a college town of only 26,000 people. I can't move because my girls are almost done with school. Meeting anyone here is impossible because they have a smorgasborg to choose from. And the ones that are left over are total losers. I have to meet guys online that are 1 1/2 hrs away which makes dating a bit tough, especially right now when we are getting lots of snow and travel becomes a minimum.

What someone can say is not so hard some of the rest of us look at and say....uh wrong!

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Registered: 03-08-2007
In reply to: lovelystarr
Mon, 12-31-2007 - 1:39pm

Hi!


I'm 44 and I am not looking for a younger woman.

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Registered: 12-02-2007
In reply to: lovelystarr
Tue, 01-01-2008 - 11:04am

geez; I can't speak for other women, but YOU are exactly what I AM LOOKING FOR! lol.


It does seem IMPOSSIBLE to meet anyone.

LovelyStarr

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Registered: 07-17-2007
In reply to: lovelystarr
Sun, 01-06-2008 - 11:18pm

Well, I want to relate but I am in a different situation. I am a 45 year old, divorced dad, two teens. I would love to find someone for a LTR, hell I want to remarry!

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Registered: 05-11-2004
In reply to: lovelystarr
Mon, 01-07-2008 - 5:04pm

I certainly would not consider you a loser, I would consider you quite a catch.


I think that being a loser has much more to do with a person's state of mind than anything else.


Take my ex-bf for example. He's 41, drives two nice new cars, just bought a brand new home, he is funny, good looking and a

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Registered: 07-17-2007
In reply to: lovelystarr
Mon, 01-07-2008 - 10:24pm

Thank you Laney!


It's good to know that there are those like you out there who are able to look past things like that. I guess my challange is not to make my problem, my problem.


It's discouraging when you are a guy my age, not old, not young, just getting by financially because supporting your kids is a first priority, I may not have all the shiny stuff, but I have a heart a mile wide and three miles deep. I would love the opportunity to love and be loved again. It seems like so many have lost touch with what is really important in life. It's all about loving and being loved, a warm heart and a smothering hug. If

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Solve et Coagu

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Registered: 01-13-2008
In reply to: lovelystarr
Sun, 01-13-2008 - 7:50pm

I agree that your situation is not a deal breaker. The right woman will look right past it.
I completely understand what you guys are saying. I am 39 and I have tried eharmony and yahoo with no luck. It feels so frustrating and at times it makes me feel like less of a person because I start to think what is wrong with me.

I feel like I am in limbo because a lot of guys post that they want the average, athletic, slender type. I am not yet in those categories, but I post that I am in the process of losing weight and WILL be at my goal weight this year. I am doing it for me and no one else, but I want someone who will support my goal and help me get there. I feel like no one wants to get you there they just want you once your there. LOL. I also found that guys don't know what to do with the fact that I don't need to be career driven. I love my job, but it is not who I am. Family and the person I choose to be with are my main focus. A job just pays the bills and allows us to plan fun trips but it shouldn't be what drives us. When I tell guys that again I feel like I'm crazy because I don't want to be a CEO and running a home and having kids and pulling my hair out. LOL

Sorry so long, I have just found getting back into the dating world very frustrating. I don't want to be alone, I love being in love and being in a relationship, but man dating today does really messes with a person self esteem.

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