8 years since he has dated.....

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Registered: 06-29-2007
8 years since he has dated.....
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Sat, 01-05-2008 - 4:12pm

Hello.......this is my first time on this board, but I would love some advice on a guy I am interested in.


Just a little background I was married for 12 years recently divorced with 3 kids.

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Registered: 05-11-2004
Mon, 01-07-2008 - 5:12pm

Hi and welcome to the board. We're glad you found us.


I think I would take things very slow and don't get worried or upset if he does the same. I would keep in contact with him and suggest fun things to do that aren't too romantic.


I'm interested in seeing what other suggestions

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Tue, 01-08-2008 - 1:39pm

I would be hesitant in pursuing him to aggressively. For a lot of people, sex and dating don't necessarily go together. He may have been nervous because he doesn't want to get in a relationship, but did want to have a sexual experience. Add to that the friendship that you and he share with a mutual couple, and he might have sensed a recipe for disaster.

You might want to give him a call and see if he shows any interest in getting together over coffee or something. If you want the friendship with the 4 of you to remain as it was, then you might want to talk with him about what happened and why it happened ... and if it might lead anywhere. Before you talk with him, make sure of where you stand on what you want, and how you'll feel if he doesn't want more. Just remember, you talked beforehand, and he did let you know that he wasn't ready for a relationship. This may be one of those things that just happened, and how each of you responds to that can have a huge impact on the friendship among the entire group.