Decided I'm Not Ready Yet - So Relieved

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Registered: 01-13-2004
Decided I'm Not Ready Yet - So Relieved
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Wed, 02-13-2008 - 5:17pm
Recently got dumped in a really mean way and someone suggested I put an online ad up just to see what kind of responses I'd get and to help me move on from this last awful situation. Have never done online dating before so was a little nervous going in anyways. Well, I got about 25-30 responses and weeded those down to 13 but did'nt reply to any of those. Then I started doing some soul searching and realized I am just
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Registered: 11-11-2007
Thu, 02-14-2008 - 1:14pm

~Hey girl! Boy can I ever relate!!


After a 16 yr marriage, I left and moved out 5 months ago. I started online dating in mid November, and It just HAS NOT been going well at all.


Seems the guys just want one thing. Some have been so ballsy as to try on the first date! Yes, I did sleep with a few after the date was primarily a drinking fest, but I am just tired of it all.


A few weeks ago I decided to drop it all..no more! I am focusing on myself and my 4 yr old granddaughter I am raising..maybe later..who knows?


~Lisa  =))

 

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Registered: 04-02-2004
Sat, 02-16-2008 - 2:32pm

Oh wow can I ever relate!


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Registered: 01-04-2004
Thu, 03-13-2008 - 11:23pm

Hello to all,
I just got dumped and the guy also just stopped calling and disappeared. I haven't dated since my twins were born and thought that I was ready, but i realize that I am not. I have to focus on myself and my children. It is getting a just a little depressing. no sex for 4 years, no "good emotionally available men" and doing things by myself. I will be 36 in April so I am like I am almost 40 and still single. But I rather be by myself then with someone that will not respect me. I say focus on you and want you want. I am not a selfish person, but folks take advantage of this all the time. It's crazy. Like to keep my mind off of what did I do, how could he have told me that he loved me and then just stop calling. I am used to fixing issues, not creating them. I have taken down all of my online profiles and I will meet someone when they approach me or if I am introduced to them.
I wish you guys the best. We should start a focus on me week, and share what we did to focus on ourselves.

Staci