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Like to get back out there again
| Sat, 03-22-2008 - 10:16am |
Hello
I have been out of the dating scene for some time. I kept "attracting" emotionally unavailable men. I believe like attracts like (the Law of Attraction). You can only attract what you are. I felt it was necessary to take a break from it, get healthy and work out what exactly I was doing (or being) to draw this type to me.

Hi Cyclegirl, welcome to the board!
I can understand your dilemma, you don't want to say too much too soon but you also want to be honest with them.
I think if I were in your situation I would get to know the person well enough to see if they are someone special enough for you to want to continue to hang out with. Once you've decided that you'd like to keep this person in your life, as a friend or for dating, I would bring it up during a calm casual conversation.
In normal chit chat there is usually some point where you can mention what you've been doing in your recent past. That's when I would bring it up. I would just be honest. You seem to have a really well adjusted positive attitude regarding your cancer, your treatment and your recovery. I think the fact that you have this positive attitude will go along way to reassuring people that you are a survivor and that you are healing from this.
I hope this helps in some way. I'll be keeping you in my prayers for a total healing and a complete recovery.
Please keep us posted on how you're doing and how your adventures in dating are going. ;0)
B, is that you?
Hi Sheri
Yes, tis' me:) ..Taking everything one day at a time..I am looking at this as blessing disguise..thanks for your input (and to the other poster as well)..revving my engines and getting ready to go the dating starting gate..again..no time to waste!
God bless
B
Hi,
I can really appreciate your situation. For many years I had small seizures, unable to be controlled by meds. Anyway, 4 yrs ago I had brain surgery that has, so far, worked. I'm on daily meds forever, but...
Anyway, what I've found is to get to know them well, feel comfortable & have their trust. Really, by this time in our life, health is a big factor for everyone. So far I've only gotten lots of support & compassion. I don't feel looked down on or as someone to be cared for. Most people seem to have family or friends who have also had health problems. It doesn't stop my life, but will always be a major factor. I think a lot of it has to do with your feeling about it.
Good Luck!!