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| Thu, 06-04-2009 - 9:33pm |
Last week I went on my first motorcycle ride and sort of fooled around with someone I was contemplating getting to know better. I think the ride was better than the fooling around part. (He has an Indian, for anyone who knows one from the other--I like learning stuff from men, btw.)
So maybe I wasn't as *relaxed* as I should have been, partly because I'd been thinking, well, if we do the dirty deed, will he wait a day or two to call? He's not exactly a big caller, maybe 2x or 3x a week and we're down from seeing each other 2x to 1x per week. Yeah, he's busy setting up his new business. No excuses.
So anyway, if he waits a day or two to call, I'm going to get turned off. I've been in this place before, the place where either the guy's clueless or, you guessed it--HJNTIY.
At this point, after all this dating, I know what I need. And the super-casual guy isn't for me.
This guy reads the Tao before he goes to bed, and the first time we met, he told me that. Only he pronounced the "T" rather than saying it with a soft "D" sound. Not that I care, in fact, I thought it was cute--but it was a disappointment to hear that he spouted how he's living his life a certain, spiritual way and to learn he is not quite up to that standard yet. Who is? I'm getting off the track here. What I'm trying to say is that if you purport to be a Tao follower, you shouldn't be pushing for dirty deed doing.
Anyway, does anyone else pay attention to how much contact you're getting? I only did after a few weeks--but it's hard to figure out if you're experiencing The Laid Back Guy, The Clueless Guy, or the HJNTIY guy.
And maybe it don't matter none. Because, in the end, it should be what I want, no? Memememememem and me, it's all about me, at least in the *contact* and needy department.


Motorcycles are great! It's such a trust exercise! You totally have to trust the driver, or you won't have a good time. Plus it's so sexy, leaning side to side, swearing down the road as One. Hott!
BF has one, though I haven't been on this year yet. I trust he'll drive right when I'm on the back, & I do my best not to wiggle & jerk all over.
He's got a friend that I could Never ride with! He's a maniac & I could feel comfortable on the back. Even though the friend is a race trained rider, not for me.
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So to the real topic, lol ...
"Yeah, he's busy setting up his new business. No excuses."
Wow.
"So anyway, if he waits a day or two to call, I'm going to get turned off. I've been in this place before, the place where either the guy's clueless or, you guessed it--HJNTIY."
The girl can call too. I don't mean 10 times a day like high school. But guys like a woman to make it easy for them too, to call, to make plans. If she's playing games waiting for him to call & he's waiting for her to show an interest, then you'll both end up thinking the other JNTITY & nothing will happen.
"Because, in the end, it should be what I want, no?"
No. =)
Both.
If you want a partner in life, act like a partner.
You made my evening, perhaps my entire month. Thanks! Talking about the compliment--my website is my baby. Well, sorta. I need the writing, though, to help ease my way through life.
I've been given the dump and the run-around by my website guys, btw. Sorta like a series of bad dates, or a bad relationship--a real eye-opener.
You know how *people* say that sometimes things happen and even though it seems horrid at the time, well, it works out for the best. At least I can say this opened my eyes. I'm learning website stuff now, I want to do, if not all of it, then lots of it myself. I compare it to the dating thing, that you go along and keep yourself open and you try and get out there. And, maybe some day...
I agree with what you said about The Clueless, though. In this case, I think it's for the best. This guy seems to prefer his male buddies for hangin' out with...some guys are just made that way.
I've really gotta stop trying to figure everyone out. But, it's such fun.
Hi,
I know that you wrote this a while ago but